What one skill = an awesome life? | Dr. Shimi Kang | TEDxKelowna

  • Am Vor 5 years

    TEDx TalksTEDx Talks

    Dauer: 19:14

    This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. Are you balanced in life? What is the best approaching to finding balance...to creating an awesome life?
    Dr. Shimi Kang is an award-winning, Harvard-trained doctor, researcher, media expert, and lecturer on human motivation. She is the author of the #1 Bestseller, The Dolphin Way: A Parent’s Guide to Raising Healthy, Happy, and Motivated Kids Without Turning Into A Tiger (Penguin Books 2014). Her articles appear in major media outlets including the Huffington Post, Psychology Today and TIME Magazine. Dr. Kang is the Medical Director for Child and Youth Mental Health for Vancouver community, a Clinical Associate Professor at the University of British Columbia, and the founder of the Provincial Youth Concurrent Mental Health and Addictions Program and BC Children’s Hospital.
    About TEDx, x = independently organized event In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)

Luis Rivas A
Luis Rivas A

Excellent!

Vor Tag
rick martin
rick martin

This is so true I have been listening to my life coaches say to calm my mind so i added back in a little rest and play and it is doing wonders for my personal health to take on new challenges to come

Vor 2 Tage
Vlad Tepes
Vlad Tepes

being easily impressed?

Vor 3 Tage
Tejas Motamarri
Tejas Motamarri

Can these guys please give a tl;dr, because honestly even though the topics is very interesting, some of the speakers are not able to keep the viewer engaged or do not articulate clearly.

Vor 3 Tage
Chris Klugh
Chris Klugh

Can't make lemon aid without any sugar!

Vor 14 Tage
Clickooo Time
Clickooo Time

Hi, friends,

Vor 17 Tage
PythonZz
PythonZz

“Medical doctor” I had no idea a doctor was medical

Vor 18 Tage
Surya Prakash
Surya Prakash

POD(play Others why we adapt Downtime when to adapt

Vor Monat
Surya Prakash
Surya Prakash

Summary;adapatability

Vor Monat
Joen Donde
Joen Donde

SOMEONE IN CONFINEMENT AND DUE TO THE PANDEMIC CANNOT LEAVE THE HOUSE AND IS GOING TO MUTILATE?

Vor Monat
Zain Aas
Zain Aas

It is enough for me to watch this video. I needn't read her "POD" book. it is simple but has awesome sense.

Vor Monat
Thomas 2005
Thomas 2005

Adaptability? Close. It helps.

Vor Monat
Richard Corke
Richard Corke

Love

Vor Monat
srtghfnbfg
srtghfnbfg

What do you if both your families from ur mother and father's side are thieves who just want to steal from u ? Her explanation is too vague. And targets a niche crowd.

Vor Monat
Sheila Scanlan
Sheila Scanlan

14:46 13:43 12:36

Vor Monat
Andrew Taylor
Andrew Taylor

Evolution can neither be positive or negative, it means adapting to the environment. The environment can be positive or negative, what is positive or negative is subjective and differ from person to person, what is positive for one person may not be positive for another. I believe we have created a negative environment for ourselves as a species and we are evolving to adapt to that negative environment which creates a lot of problems for ourselves, anxiety and depression being obvious examples in current society. Lets take personal responsibility for our own lives and collectively create a more positive environment. This starts with ourselves. We spend too much time looking at others and not within.

Vor 2 Monate
Ethel Risch
Ethel Risch

04:21 04:35 04:36

Vor 2 Monate
Daniel Delarosa
Daniel Delarosa

Something to believe in discipline an morals an weed u loook realy nice in ur dress u guys should go to LEGO land we are to apart from our selfs we need to reconnect w our selfs that’s the freedom I wanted to give u guys generosity is wat truly touches pple both wen u receive an wen u give themore we connect the more we get to be our true selfs friend ship to is wat those plle need to its an amazing plant it brings life an joy happy hungry an happy

Vor 2 Monate
Prashant Kumar
Prashant Kumar

Wow...great

Vor 2 Monate
Henry W. Mwangi
Henry W. Mwangi

My meaning of life is to give God my life. I feel refreshed when I go to worship and meditate on the word of God.

Vor 2 Monate
Crystal Paqua
Crystal Paqua

blah blah blah

Vor 2 Monate
Crystal Paqua
Crystal Paqua

so glad shes done rambling

Vor 2 Monate
Paul R
Paul R

I don't feel she really makes the connection between POD and adaptation. How does pod help adaptation?

Vor 2 Monate
Donavan B LoForte RPN, RCRT, LCRT
Donavan B LoForte RPN, RCRT, LCRT

Wow. Don't include me in your we. I can speak for myself

Vor 2 Monate
justin zarate
justin zarate

The legos of today is Minecraft

Vor 2 Monate
KAREN Bouachour
KAREN Bouachour

This is beautiful. When I was young and swam, I would pretend to be a dolphin or a seal. I still pretend...

Vor 2 Monate
Rasta Far-I
Rasta Far-I

"Conscious mind" is one Chilean wannabe hipster from my college day used to repeat LMAO!

Vor 2 Monate
Raghad and The Universe
Raghad and The Universe

"we need science as permission for common sense" wow

Vor 3 Monate
Chulanga Averil
Chulanga Averil

"Look deeply into nature and then you will understand everything better"

Vor 3 Monate
Saintly Satan
Saintly Satan

This not good. When P.O.D. becomes mudane and boring we will start the cycle over again. She just putting a bandaid on old band aid. Snake oil tactics.

Vor 3 Monate
Saintly Satan
Saintly Satan

@CouchH3r0 No the difference between your and mine is that I know mine but you think yours. This lady is just another modality psych saleswomen. No Buenos

Vor 3 Monate
CouchH3r0 No
CouchH3r0 No

I think you missed the point.

Vor 3 Monate
bdaydog
bdaydog

6:06 damnnn why she do kodak like that?? 💀💀💀

Vor 3 Monate
Vic L
Vic L

my FAVORITE ted talk

Vor 3 Monate
Lola Lo
Lola Lo

I'm sorry, what the woman is talking about is very inspiring and all, but the smacking sound she makes every time she opens her mouth is incredibly distracting...

Vor 3 Monate
chaduvula hemanth
chaduvula hemanth

Thank you ma'am. I enjoyed it and I will implement this technique.

Vor 3 Monate
Harshit Gupta
Harshit Gupta

1. The video is great. 2. She is hot.

Vor 3 Monate
Lium thongkham
Lium thongkham

clearly speaking

Vor 3 Monate
First name Last name
First name Last name

Mediocre at best

Vor 3 Monate
Linda W
Linda W

Listen more to your inner voice. However Adapt to lower standards are no good.

Vor 3 Monate
Roger Aronson
Roger Aronson

Sleep with the dolphins

Vor 3 Monate
Kilgore Trout
Kilgore Trout

She inherited broken lego? What kind of superpowers did her siblings had?

Vor 3 Monate
Arturo Torres
Arturo Torres

14:19 "Stress is the #1 health epidemic of the 21st century" - World Health Organization Coronavirus Covaid-19 : Hold my beer 12:18 Others, this explains perfectly why a lot of Americans are having a challenging time being quarantine during the stay at home. That lack of social connection is some people nuts! This was a very worthwhile TedTalk, especially during these pandemic times.

Vor 3 Monate
Tara Harrison
Tara Harrison

I was sure she was going tosay shutting off the damn computer and phone website attention. Lol but no, we're addicted and not adapting to realise it's sickening us, sleep depriving us and keeping us from luving our real life. I guess I could brag the social media I partake in is educational lemonade.... Not like it keeps me awake til 3 am. Not like most kids aren't addicted to video games... They don't read or play outside using their imagination and discovering nature.

Vor 3 Monate
rohan bartake
rohan bartake

Excellent and inspiring

Vor 3 Monate
Cheimung Ks
Cheimung Ks

Good one. Learnt alt

Vor 4 Monate
Anym
Anym

communication is the best skill to have in life

Vor 4 Monate
junghun cha
junghun cha

I had a wonderful time listening your story and lectures. It gives me a good chance for our family, buds, myself. Until these days, I didn't know how to play, communicate, rest. But I am trying  to play with my boys and girl, to company with my friends, to rest for meself. Thanks a lot. P.O.D(Play. Others. Downtimes)

Vor 4 Monate
lionpersia
lionpersia

Why can't I help but hate her?

Vor 4 Monate
Lynn Marie Anderson
Lynn Marie Anderson

Seems strange to me how she leads with being adaptable as the best quality to have, and then launches into her POD theory. It's not always that easy to adapt to moving somewhere else or starting a new job or new school. Sometimes it's a dog eat dog world out there. Some people really are out to get you. What does play, others, and downtime really have to do with adapting to a new life situation???

Vor 4 Monate
Dragon800
Dragon800

of course a super hot woman can say being lonely is bad like it's an easy fix

Vor 4 Monate
mussie bielom
mussie bielom

Wow thanks a lot.

Vor 4 Monate
pxb353
pxb353

Summary : A busy woman has children and becomes an expert on adaptability and the need to bring balance back in our lifes.

Vor 4 Monate
Reprogramming Mind
Reprogramming Mind

Starts at 4:40

Vor 4 Monate
Heather Sanders
Heather Sanders

Why are there dislikes???? I will never understand why people have to be trolls. They need to practice the P. in P.O.D.

Vor 4 Monate
T3CHN01R BOT 07 AUTT0-MATIK
T3CHN01R BOT 07 AUTT0-MATIK

Probably because there are a certain set of viewers that don't agree with her conclusions. People who don't join the majority opinion shouldn't be automatically labeled as "trolls".

Vor 4 Monate
Akbarali Abdul
Akbarali Abdul

sleep play meditate follow passion soicalise unwind

Vor 4 Monate
Asad Awan
Asad Awan

wow amazing wonderful so true to the core

Vor 4 Monate
Hendra Yahya
Hendra Yahya

Breaks are the moment of breakthroughs, that looking inward gives us innovation and inspiration - nice.

Vor 4 Monate
Diana Liuzzi
Diana Liuzzi

Thank you for this such a useful video!!!

Vor 4 Monate
Jonathan Davis
Jonathan Davis

Someone should tell her that dolphins eat sharks🤷‍♂️. Need a new example

Vor 4 Monate
EmhyrV Emrais
EmhyrV Emrais

This is very bad video for coronavirus time

Vor 4 Monate
Mpendulo Motsa
Mpendulo Motsa

She s hot

Vor 4 Monate
Chris Lupe
Chris Lupe

When you grow up with over controlling parents it's very hard to have a beautiful life 😭. I've let them do too much for me. I ask myself every day why did I have to have parents like this God? I feel so far behind in thislife of mine, so unfair watching other people live life to the fullest!

Vor 4 Monate
Queen Amina
Queen Amina

Survival of the fittest, doesn't mean the strongest, but best fit in the environment.

Vor 4 Monate
critcyn ahole
critcyn ahole

Being a hot woman is the answer.

Vor 5 Monate
Justin Aeneas
Justin Aeneas

She could have done a better job linking adaptability to P.O.D.

Vor 5 Monate
froimovi
froimovi

Just here to predict her answer to her own question in the title : Suckin cak?

Vor 5 Monate
Lian Zecheng
Lian Zecheng

g66d

Vor 5 Monate
Wei Li
Wei Li

Adapt to laws, but not to the circumstances. We humans can make a better place to live in and thrive

Vor 5 Monate
Will Perry
Will Perry

Doesn't mention or recognize a husband. Harvard educated. Watch her! She'll send your kids to die in a foreign land for a fake war to enrich herself and her other entitled 1%ers.

Vor 5 Monate
Thuto Salome
Thuto Salome

I love the concept of adoption to me it means not only assimilating the influence of the current environment into your life but also being true to yourself attracting authentic people people who elevate you and make you see things from their perspective thats a profound human connection and adaptation to me

Vor 5 Monate
Ascential Property
Ascential Property

Good stuff I guess Thank You Tedx Adaptability Pod Play Others/contri /connect Downtime/ rest Common sense

Vor 5 Monate
Christopher Rognalsen
Christopher Rognalsen

I had another thought. What if people could live in the present moment and accept what occurs. It's difficult when something happens to you or someone close to you. You want revenge, justice, etc. Imagine you could just leave it behind and move forward. I think this was fairly common in the past, but recently people have more time to dwell on these things alone. Our society is very judge mental in the modern age. When someone does something considered bad people jump all over them in droves.

Vor 5 Monate
Christopher Rognalsen
Christopher Rognalsen

I think part of the issue is our technology and comforts. We are afraid to the lose them and our security. We are also envious of those around us for various reasons. I don't think being busy or not busy the key to happiness. It is simply your perception of your life. People have lived with very little and found contentment. People have had busy lives full of purpose and wealth, but were unhappy. Could you be happy not being able to have children, have a rank in society, have a circle of friends to protect you, etc.? Could you be content/happy at the bottom of the heap or do you feel the need to be better? Loneliness is again a perception. When you see others around you interacting in a positive way you can feel lonely, but there are people who are happy living alone. I think this is all related to the placebo effect and what we believe/perceive.

Vor 5 Monate
Marlyn A.
Marlyn A.

The problem is we live in a fast-paced environment. We consumed most of our time on work.

Vor 5 Monate
Peter Zurich
Peter Zurich

Wow!!! She´s totally gorgeous. Wish my doctor looked like that!

Vor 5 Monate
Patrick Braine
Patrick Braine

seperate need and want

Vor 5 Monate
D B
D B

Talking rubbish from the start trying to capture attention by making an absurd statement

Vor 5 Monate
hbofbyu1
hbofbyu1

Go to 4:40 for the answer. None has 20 minutes to watch all of this.

Vor 5 Monate
ᮔᮌ. нигу
ᮔᮌ. нигу

man... stuff like this just makes me wanna scalp people (sniper-style) and masterbait in peace 😑

Vor 6 Monate
ᮔᮌ. нигу
ᮔᮌ. нигу

@T3CHN01R BOT 07 AUTT0-MATIK entropy (i guess) 🤓

Vor 4 Monate
T3CHN01R BOT 07 AUTT0-MATIK
T3CHN01R BOT 07 AUTT0-MATIK

So, what type of bait do you use to catch your master anyway?

Vor 4 Monate
Ryan Gallagher
Ryan Gallagher

Great talk. I am going to start taking a daily dose of POD everyday. Really liked the comparison to dolphins! So true and makes sense.

Vor 6 Monate
Manu-Camus
Manu-Camus

IN my opinion, the best TED ever!

Vor 6 Monate
T3CHN01R BOT 07 AUTT0-MATIK
T3CHN01R BOT 07 AUTT0-MATIK

I totally agree WITH you.

Vor 4 Monate
Zatzu Uy
Zatzu Uy

I was thinking Experience Answer: Adaptability Me: Heh, close enough

Vor 6 Monate
Hercules Real
Hercules Real

I was thinking empathy, but i think that actually causes MORE stress... :-(

Vor 5 Monate
Fei Qi
Fei Qi

I love staying by myself and reading. It really depends.

Vor 6 Monate
Cherry Messer
Cherry Messer

Wow, a Harvard grad that doesn't know the history of Kodak and believes bacteria is winning over mankind?

Vor 6 Monate
Ten Minute Tokyo 2
Ten Minute Tokyo 2

Fitness. When you are physically fit strees does not affect you.

Vor 6 Monate
J.D. O'Meara
J.D. O'Meara

Disagree. I have seen the fittest and strongest of individuals broken and on their knees with stress. The loss of a loved one will take anyone down the strongest and the fittest and for a good length of time too. Like most Ted Talks the principles behind the talks only work in trivial everyday settings.

Vor 3 Monate
Youtuberbee
Youtuberbee

boring

Vor 6 Monate
HENRIPOL4
HENRIPOL4

You are POD and I am following you for years( without medication and a top brain for a top life with nature without dolphins but a life-tree !

Vor 6 Monate
Bryan Mauro
Bryan Mauro

What was she talking about?

Vor 6 Monate
Jeremy Long
Jeremy Long

To the person at Ted Talks handling the captioning, at 11:26 she says "constricted" not "constructed" 😂🤣😂🤣 big difference though.. especially for the deaf person that can only read the data!

Vor 6 Monate
Julio Simón
Julio Simón

Drinking game: You have to drink every time she says: "I"

Vor 6 Monate
Julio Simón
Julio Simón

No need to adapt but to start learning to tell stories without considering myself as the center of the universe

Vor 5 Monate
Justin Aeneas
Justin Aeneas

Y'all need to learn how to adapt. Us foreigners notice the word "the" occurring dozens of times in a given statement. It can be THE most annoying thing in THE world when you read THE book, "THE Cat in THE Hat" in THE evening to THE kids, who are laying on THE pillows on THE bed next to THE chair you're sitting on. It'll drive you nuts if you don't learn to ignore it. But when I hear people pronouncing it "THEE Cat in THEE Hat", it makes it much harder to ignore the word. I even find myself rewording sentences to avoid mentioning "the" as much as possible.

Vor 5 Monate
Gary Ryan
Gary Ryan

Once I noticed that, I couldn't watch it!

Vor 6 Monate
Thomas Borisov
Thomas Borisov

Yeah I died not even halfway thru

Vor 6 Monate
mari gold
mari gold

Speaker does not have education or knowledge issues or money issues for her adaptability would be easier..just go for part time job..

Vor 6 Monate
Владислав Артюхов
Владислав Артюхов

I am in a uncertaintly about my future life, but i write my thoughts in the diary, my reasoning about different themes. I worry about that i don't make money now, but want start to share my thoughts in RU and EU language. They are deep in understanding this world. I think, that i many time to relax and rest, but all this time i studying and thinking. May be what i don't spend my time for preparing to exams in the university is consequence of the fact that the traditional method of studying isn't my. I live for my pleasure, but my pleasure is a science, calithenics, improving in social communications, psychology, shearing knowledge, ect. Really, may be other forget how to be a human...

Vor 6 Monate
Reflexive Domain
Reflexive Domain

Really awesome!

Vor 6 Monate
Patricia Offer
Patricia Offer

Adapting and conformity aren't necessarily the same. As long as the definition's correct, I like this video.

Vor 6 Monate
DM Grant
DM Grant

That one skill = the ability to turn off the TV.

Vor 6 Monate
MJ
MJ

Being alone is not the same as being lonely.

Vor 6 Monate
stheday1
stheday1

People can drain us too..it's important to find supportive ones.

Vor 6 Monate
manboobs
manboobs

oh i know what you mean

Vor 4 Monate
Y User
Y User

This video = insult to your intelligence hit the back button!

Vor 6 Monate
Robert Loughnane
Robert Loughnane

The contradiction here is laughable - she maintains that a life with both P.O.D and adaptability are beneficial, yet she keeps self-aggrandizing her own accomplishments. I thought the competitive spirit was supposed to be thwarted.

Vor 6 Monate
Cathy
Cathy

There is a profession that focuses on helping people adapt to limitations from developmental issues or illness: occupational therapy.

Vor 6 Monate
Chandrika
Chandrika

The Worst ted talk i have seen since the last 5 years.

Vor 6 Monate

Nächstes Video

Designing Your Life | Bill Burnett | TEDxStanford

25:21