How To Command Respect If You’re Quiet

Psychology Refresh
Psychology Refresh

These are some incredibly effective ways to instantly command respect from people: - Be vocal about your flaws - Compliment people around you - Hold your ground - Keep your word - Improve your body language

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Tanner Edge
Tanner Edge

I've done all these and still people don't respect me sometimes. Thing is I feel better about now and don't care and I guess that's the benefit of doing it

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Brick Mate
Brick Mate

@Daniel C you nailed it. Every point you just wrote is bang on.

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MTL
MTL

@Eric Perez It is perfectly fine to assume something but check if the assumption is right or not.

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MTL
MTL

@Kat T *Absolutely correct Kat !* _"Hold your ground is not applicable for all situations. ...more respect for people that are openminded and willing to change their mind based on evidence, rather than one who sticks to their misbelief regardless of facts."_

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Chacarron91
Chacarron91

- Slow And Relax Men Movement - Strong Eye Contact - Not Reactive To Hostility - Be As Big As Your Audience - Show Conviction With Your Words - Show Conviction With Your Tone - Speak Slowly And Use Pauses - Use Carrot/Stick Motivation

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Justanother Nobody
Justanother Nobody

There's one more - Don't base your actions on a fictional character played by an actor in a TV show. The real world isn't a movie or a TV show.

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Zig Man
Zig Man

Thanks I listened to the video

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Charisma
Charisma

Thank you

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entityy beans
entityy beans

@DNLgamingsX yes but with way more talking and no guns lol

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peter blood
peter blood

Tommy had something most people don't. He had no fear of death as he had faced it many times during the war. He, basically, had nothing to lose as he felt he was living on borrowed time anyway. Combine that lack of fear with an analytical mind and you have a very strong personality indeed.

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Tanner Edge
Tanner Edge

I'm not afraid of the actual death itself. I'm afraid of the guilt of the people I'm leaving behind. My mom would snap if I passed away.

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Tanner Edge
Tanner Edge

@Samson 92 you will be when I'm done with you

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Charisma
Charisma

thats a good point

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Chris Penfield
Chris Penfield

@peter blood: Yes, Amor Fati as the Stoics say.

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Samrat Dey
Samrat Dey

Thomas shelby was a world war 1 veteran in the series. He was a tunneler, a job which requires you to operate in the worst possible conditions. He was a gypsy who lived his childhood in poverty. And all of this hardships coupled with horrors of the war made tommy who he was. Merely imitating his reactions to certain situations won't make you a tough guy. You have live your life out of your comfort zone to transform your persona into that of someone like thomas shelby.

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Miguel Guerin
Miguel Guerin

The simple fact of the situation. He used to laugh a lot, then he turned into what we know him as

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Polaroid Android Jeff
Polaroid Android Jeff

They should pin this

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User and Researcher
User and Researcher

Yep, it's pretty much acting like someone you're not.

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goodlife420
goodlife420

thats what I thought too this video is going to get people into problems

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Kevin Gray
Kevin Gray

For point 2, if there's a threat of violence, don't look to the side! Looking downward toward the body, if done purposefully instead of evasively is both tactically and psychologically sound. It's easier to keep a cool head, and by looking for their actions instead of words, it's unnerving for them to continue talking. People think of what they see other people looking at, so instead of reflecting back their own emotion through eyes, they start thinking of the vulnerability of their own body. "You're prepared to hurt my body. Do I really want to go there?" instead of "You feel that way about me! How do I feel about you?" I never did it for psychology, just how I learned to fight. But it's had good de-escalatory effect the times I've done it, which made me think.

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Sophie
Sophie

@Brandon Jones lol

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Michael Wilson
Michael Wilson

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Kevin Gray
Kevin Gray

@Fonda William I love The Art of Self-defense, where they ride up on the motorcycle and ask the potential victim if they have a gun before using karate to mug him. It's seems ridiculous, but on the other hand, most people don't know how to respond when put on the spot like that. Most people carrying a weapon of any kind would impulsively move their eyes or hand in that direction. Most people not carrying would give it away. Either way, it improves the odds of singling out a helpless victim.

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Cole
Cole

One of the biggest things I’ve learned from my father that I may aswell pass onto you guys is to only speak when necessary and if you are an out going loud person that makes a lot of jokes. Usually people look at you as a bit of a goof.

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Universal Becoming
Universal Becoming

And yet famous comedians always have enormous IQs

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Martin
Martin

Empty barrels make the most noise.

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KYLE HUGHES
KYLE HUGHES

It's sad because others lack character and respect for others, but is very true. It's an American problem

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Chaoticlifemaker
Chaoticlifemaker

To be fair that's fine with me. I want to be able to be a goof when I can but also be calm/collected when the situation calls for it.

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FdJ
FdJ

i don't usually talk a lot, and I always become nervous especially someone watching me , I just become weird sometimes which is not me at all 🙂

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Agente Peperoni
Agente Peperoni

You forgot to mention that Tommy has breakdowns after some of these scenes, releasing great amounts of stress he felt during periods where he shows himself as being "calm". And he drinks a lot & smokes a lot until the last season.

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Agente Peperoni
Agente Peperoni

@lott nio In the series, man. As the gangster. Not in real life he drinks and smokes.

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lott nio
lott nio

@Agente Peperoni Other career than acting

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Agente Peperoni
Agente Peperoni

@lott nio He wanted great power and lots of money. He knows the price. Even if it's just "a movie".

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Agente Peperoni
Agente Peperoni

@lott nio Bruh he's a gangster, wtf you mean "consider another career"? You mean stay broke like.. most of you?

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lott nio
lott nio

A should consider another career if this causes breakdowns and drinking. It’s just acting.

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William Stixrud Hagen
William Stixrud Hagen

Most important lesson of all: Do it for yourself, never do it for being cool to be with!!! It sounds weird, but when you only do it to impress others, you will give them the power over you. You are doing it for them, therefore they are the ones indirectly controlling you, as your main goal is to impress them. Why is that a problem? If you give them all the power, then the power you show using these tips will be «fake», because it will only be something you do to get respect from the ones in power. So you fake being the boss to impress everyone else, and that makes you the weakest, because you must bend to whatever they want from you. You will be more nervous when you give everyone else this power over you. So do it for yourself. That will give you all the power.

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「brocolindo1」
「brocolindo1」

For me is basic stand up to the person the way they stand up to you

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Im the Juggernaut
Im the Juggernaut

Well put👏.

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Mikhaella
Mikhaella

Interesting breakdown as always! I have a hard time talking slow and pausing at certain points in conversation because I've gotten used to being interrupted and cut off.

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Abdul Rahman
Abdul Rahman

That laid back attitude is what pulls ya in. I have also noticed he is a man of few words. No cracking jokes, no extra fluffy words. Every thing he says is on point. Only Talking when its necessary is a great way to put more weight on your words!

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Tanner Edge
Tanner Edge

I've thought about it... But I'm afraid of what I might become. You see, I have a few demons I'm dealing with

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Chris Penfield
Chris Penfield

@Abdul Rahman : True, but I began practicing that discipline and people started asking me what was wrong and why was I mad at them.. Some days there's just no winning. lol

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Michael Wilson
Michael Wilson

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Patrick Bateman
Patrick Bateman

I try to talk minimally from now!

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Fish Butt
Fish Butt

​@John Moore Agree. Being silent and cool is the biggest giveaway for me that someone tries to be cool when they are not. Can you imagine all men no going around trying to mimic this video and the body language of actors. It becomes quite pathetic when you think about it. Be you.

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trino head
trino head

I feel like these tricks really work coz once in my class my teacher was asking everyone if they have done their notes my sir was only willing to check some students if they have done their homework but ask the question to everyone so I did what I had to do I was sitting there looking at my teacher with a confidential eye like I'm willing to stand and show my homework as soon as my teacher call my name even though I didn't even do my homework that day and you know what's the best part my sir never asked me if I have finished my homework or not.

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Jon
Jon

3:55 On the thing with upwards inflections, it's really important to point out that certain accents, especially accents found in the UK, quite often use upwards inflections at the end of sentences, e.g. the Liverpudlian accent or the Glaswegian accent, and actually, even the West Midlands/"Black Country" accent that Tommy is supposed to have has upwards inflections at the end of sentences, but these accents don't imply that the speaker is unsure at all. I can imagine a lot of Americans being confused by this lol although I think the "Vally Girl" accent found in LA is similar, think the Kardashians lol.

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Jon
Jon

​@SmokingBirds I'm not sure if you're agreeing or not but yes, that's what I was saying. It would be a mistake to read into certain accents in this way.

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SmokingBirds
SmokingBirds

And The Valley girl accent doesn’t make you appear very confident and competent, does it? Just because the accent is like this, doesn’t mean it loses its inherent effect on people. Especially those who are not used to it. In Germany most accents make you appear less competent than standard high German. Even though it may sound normal to those who are used to the accent.

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Pradeep Dp
Pradeep Dp

- Slow And Relax Men Movement - Strong Eye Contact - Not Reactive To Hostility - Be As Big As Your Audience - Show Conviction With Your Words - Show Conviction With Your Tone - Speak Slowly And Use Pauses - Use Carrot/Stick Motivation Recently I had read a book from Amazon titled “Qualities to rise like Thomas Shelby” and it was quite good and useful, actually.

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BAIT
BAIT

Thank you very much man, I didn't expect this much support from you readers, and please don't forget to write a review for the book😉.

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HpCriticAll
HpCriticAll

There's a huge side of Tommy's confidence you didn't touch on here though. He has a strong level of Nihilistic confidence. He doesn't just not fear death or dying. But actually welcomes it. So, he does not need to fear hostile situations, those are a welcoming home to him. Hence why he also falters strongly in the times he's required to be vulnerable and caring. He doesn't care about being alive so it's hard for him to associate living with positivity.

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Reconnected
Reconnected

Body language goes a long way. Things like: standing tall, taking up more space, not crossing your arms tightly, and making good eye contact. It's the difference between "he looks so awkward" and "he's the strong silent type."

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Batman
Batman

And when standing still if you're waiting or something even if you get tired stay standing straight don't lean your body to one side or start fidgeting

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Steven Mosbee
Steven Mosbee

@Julian both are important and apply to myself.. cannot say the same for you.

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Fonda William
Fonda William

So far as body language goes, crossing your arms, and taking up more space r the exact same identical thing. They both display agression. Did you even graduate with a G.E.D.?

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TRUE°NORTH°AFFIRMATIONS
TRUE°NORTH°AFFIRMATIONS

These are achieved by being aware and practicing until they are habitual

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lyndsay crawford
lyndsay crawford

@Dedi Wahyudi a good few acting lessons could turn you into Tommy. He’s never actually in danger. It would be so easy to walk about like the dogs bollocks when you’re only acting. All these tips are BS as soon as someone lands one on you, it’s on! Your primitive fight mode just kicks in.

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Leia
Leia

I know Conan has been a topic before, but can you guys commit a full video just to his personality? I feel like he's so charismatic and lovable he just stands out like crazy, I'd love to hear your guys' take

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HazaHyperion
HazaHyperion

Basically all of these points originate from a source of confidence, and confidence is absolutely essential to attaining a charismatic and respected stance. Even if you're not actually confident, just act so and people will respect you. E.g. If you awkwardly make eye contact with a stranger, don't break away because you feel you're being weird, maintain it briefly, not for long, but long enough that they know that you're not afraid to show that you're comfortable in social situations and when making eye contact.

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Strawberry Creme
Strawberry Creme

I think this video is really effective, although I think it’s important to break down why we do the things we already do (body language). We can’t do without knowing why we feel the need to do.

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Григорий Петроченко
Григорий Петроченко

скорее всего, это заложено природой, когда были инстинкты, чтоб нравиться противоположному полу и показывать другим так сказать "сородичам", что мы испытываем

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Beyond the Box
Beyond the Box

I had a gun held to my head in 8th grade by someone I used to call a friend. I remained extremly calm cuz I knew he wouldn’t pull the trigger. Remained logical, proved to him how he would never get away with it, discussed how could he get rid of the blood, how would he keep it from his parents, and betting the gun doesn’t even have any bullets in it. Keeping a poker face and remaining completely calm and being more logical than the other person will always win.

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Mathias Vibeto
Mathias Vibeto

While i think Tommy Shelby is an fascinating and cool character, i also think it is important to differentiate fiction from reality. In Peaky Blinders he knows his place and does things that somehow work wonders and miracles. This character has a fictional history and his nature is more than likely purely based on what the creators of the show wanted it to be, so it can be captivating. Who in his right mind would behave like him and get away with it? Everything is pre determined in the show. You're NEVER gonna be either one. You is the only real thing. Not the character Cillian Murphy portrays. Realistically, If you were put under the pressure Tommy has faced, you'd be dead before you realized it. It's like doing an analysis on Scarface. Sure it's fun, interesting and fascinating but not close to the reality of OUR world. This is just my humble opinion. Don't compare yourself to none other than you. However, is this a cool analysis of Thomas? Absolutely.

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Riko.
Riko.

Try living in Vancouver u were 4 out of ten males is forced to behave and think like Tommy..just to fit in

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Gr8sc0tt
Gr8sc0tt

I mean even then, it's some good pointers, especially in first impressions/meeting people. Not necessarily in the sense that you should go fight in a war and behave erratically without remorse or conscience but being a bit slower in movements and holding eye contact/using your hands to gesture a little when speaking in a bigger crowd etc.

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Rontala Mahender
Rontala Mahender

Underrated!!!

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Yash kawade
Yash kawade

The only character that I will compare to Tommy is John wick. He's quieter than anyone and holds great respect in his community. Now I believe he has earned that respect by his actions(fighting), but he's also not some crazy assassin who just kills anyone. He also speaks when he feels the need otherwise he's just a straight face but also shows his confidence.

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- Slow And Relax Men Movement - Strong Eye Contact - Not Reactive To Hostility - Be As Big As Your Audience - Show Conviction With Your Words - Show Conviction With Your Tone - Speak Slowly And Use Pauses - Use Carrot/Stick Motivation

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Alex R
Alex R

As an introverted person, I’ve learned that the very first point he made about having slow movements is true. Before, I used to rush to do things, making it clear that I was always in a hurry. I started to be meticulous about everything, and people who I later befriended said I seemed confident. It works lol

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Chris Penfield
Chris Penfield

These are great insights. One of the things I've discovered is that if you have settled your death in your own mind it takes quite a bit of edge off tension, fear, and worry. There is a saying, "Today is a good day to die." I've heard it attributed to the Lakota tribe and also some other sources so I don't know the definitive origin. Also the Stoic saying, "Amor Fati" is a reminder to know your mortality and act accordingly. If you are reconciled to your own death there is not too much left to upset you.

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Thot Station
Thot Station

This channel never fails to make me laugh. Thank you for the daily dose of laughter filled delusion.

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PRITISH BOSE
PRITISH BOSE

having eye contact does not mean escalation, it may avoid the same. The person in front may want to assault you and is just looking for a moment when you is off guard to go for it. But looking right back at your aggressor would mean the person in front can't catch you off guard.

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KYLE HUGHES
KYLE HUGHES

Personally eye contact is awkward and pointless to me, the only person that would have my eye contact, would be for example my wife. Eye contact is pretty intimate if you ask me, guys looking into another guys eyes, seems like a waste, if one can listen and continue engaging in work or recriational activity simultaneously. You would stop and give your spouse all of your attention so much so you look into their eyes and focus, stopping anything else that's currently happening. I hope this perspective helps.

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Amr A
Amr A

Talking slowly, allowing ur mind to not fault with speaking and words I love this one tbh

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jahudini
jahudini

Self accountability (Accepting who you are, flawed, owning it and in spite of that, be responsible for yourself), is self validation, a precursor to confidence. Everything falls in place after that; Your walk, your talk and how you react, because you pander to nobody. If you can't hold yourself accountable, you are either a liar or a coward, or both.

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Vali Izzatullayev
Vali Izzatullayev

"The nearer man comes to a calm mind, the closer he is to strength. " - Marcus Aurelius. Confidence comes from within the person. All these body movements just naturally comes when you are in that mode

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Ryosuke1208
Ryosuke1208

@Fonda William That newton had an irrational belief at that time doesn't mean he is not a genius for all the stuff he did on maths and physics

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Fonda William
Fonda William

@ryosuke. No need to be contumelious.

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Fonda William
Fonda William

@Ryosuke. Why r u accusing me of add hominem when I was merely agreeing with u. U see how we have almost identical comments and the same opinion? Newton was into alchemy which is idiotic and a roman dictator would rarely b calm so why r we arguing?

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Ryosuke1208
Ryosuke1208

@Fonda William Ad hominem.

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Fonda William
Fonda William

And your going to quote a Roman dictator and creep on calmness? Piss off.

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John Hendrixson
John Hendrixson

Tommy is also a WW1 vet. His PTSD is mistaken for Confidence.

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John Hendrixson
John Hendrixson

@Fonda William Ok I get it but think about what the name is post traumatic stress disorder. it's very vague and broad. every traumatic experience is different, every psyche and brain and body is too. each case is treated different and given different types of rehabilitation

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Fonda William
Fonda William

But all I'm saying is some people use it as a crutch and I mean the the people I really sorry for r the ones who really have it because it loses its meaning when MILLIONS of people are diagnosed.

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John Hendrixson
John Hendrixson

@Fonda William That PTSD is fake. Clearly, millions of people worldwide are experience mental stress post Traumatic experience. I'm not saying each case isn't unique, but the cases are real.

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Fonda William
Fonda William

What don't u believe, and why?

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Ru White
Ru White

@Fonda William well its definitely lost its meaning. apparently everyone has ptsd these days.

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Mrs.Kelly Miracle
Mrs.Kelly Miracle

Tommy Shelby, one of the best characters ever. of course there's other great but man Cillian killed it.

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Nur die SGE
Nur die SGE

Best rules Hold your word Select ppl u can trust Love your family Be a good example Never fear Cause you boil with water I boil with water I shower with... We are all same.!

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Ana Bautista
Ana Bautista

1. He has slow, relaxed movements. 2. He is comfortable holding eye contact, even during conflict. 3. He is non-reactive to hostility. 4. Be as big as your audience. 5. Show conviction with your words. 6. Show conviction with your tone. 7. Speak slowly and use pauses between words. 8. Use carrot / stick motivation.

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Austin Lang
Austin Lang

Very good video, but important to underscore the fact that his character was naturally charismatic on top of these things. Plus he lead in the most extreme of situations in WW1. He lost an aspect of his humanity in the war thus making death a kindness, a release so to say. So although you can learn to project not being afraid Tommy’s internal lack of fear is more from the war than an actual internal lack of fear. These perfect storm type ppl exist. And when these people upgrade their natural skills with things like you talk about, they become ppl like JFK or Winston Churchill etc. some people are just natural leaders. Again great video

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Jagdamba Tiwari
Jagdamba Tiwari

This is a masterpiece to instantly command respect from people...

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Keeping it reals
Keeping it reals

Love your videos. Especially the ones with Tommy. Classic.

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Sarah
Sarah

I love your videos and find them really helpful. I noticed that this one was very male-centric and would be interested in some female examples of holding respect as an introverted woman.

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A Ingle
A Ingle

Dude absolutely played his character to perfection. Exactly like someone who’s been through a lot

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Charisma
Charisma

couldn't agree more

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Kayleigh Schofield
Kayleigh Schofield

yes, they chose the right actors

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King Dice
King Dice

I get in many hostile situations . If people use these right they actually do work . I've been using this kind of psychology for years and believe me you can have someone twice as big as you back down in a confrontation before it kicks off . There's also other things like how you dress which can play a part .

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Johanna Borlein
Johanna Borlein

I tried training myself a different body language for I while but I stopped because it stressed me out. I'm not a loud speaker and I hate groups where the loudest and most dominant people get to talk the most. I know that I have a lot smart stuff to speak about, but if people prefer nonsense blabla it's their bad. If I don't feel respected and heard I am quiet and that's alright. Gladly there a people who are different and know the basics of respectful and calm conversation with whom I open up and can also talk and talk. Slowly movements, keeping eye contact, that costs so much energy.

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B
B

It’s called practice….repetition. Of course it will take a lot of energy it’s something out of your comfort zone

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Alberto Velazquez
Alberto Velazquez

The satisfaction while watching this video realizing you already do all these things 👌

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Samrat Mukherjee
Samrat Mukherjee

He has always been there when Nolan needed a friend doing unintimidating roles in his film with full conviction

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Greg Bors
Greg Bors

Yeah, Cillian Murphy is always charismatic, because he’s a great actor.

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Charisma
Charisma

truth

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David Lucey
David Lucey

True

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Sandndust04
Sandndust04

The world is a stage and everyone is an actor

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Robert Moore
Robert Moore

​@S. Beccari he was scary when he did those eye contact on crain

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RJ Star
RJ Star

He's just charismatic

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Dj shadow Dogger
Dj shadow Dogger

In very short words, this is about having a relaxed-body, non-reactive to danger, choices of words, and being strong. 4 strong elements, 4 important elements.

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Deena D
Deena D

*Doing great work, brother.* 💫

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Simon
Simon

There is a difference in faking confidence and then knowing who/what you are.

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Quotes KING
Quotes KING

"The future depends on what we do in the present."

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Asadulla Iqbal
Asadulla Iqbal

first rule, workout, look good. dress well, stay well groomed, you automatically gain half of the respect. let your words and body language do the rest

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Marcelo Silveira
Marcelo Silveira

2:40 honestly there is something calming from having a gun pressed against your head, I don't know if it is the finality of it, the certainty that there is no "if only I had done this!" moment later on or what, but I have never being as calm as for the brief moment I had a 9mm pointed, point blank, against my forehead, and I'm usually an anxious person.

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Entity
Entity

Honestly great advice , that I've have long time learn't but this stuff is dangerous, almost got into a couple of fights in my life that I didnt have the energy to deal with

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Brolic Rage Like Broly
Brolic Rage Like Broly

Thomas Shelby is one of the Greatest Iconic Lead characters ever in cinema period.. Next to Tony Montana, imo ofc.

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LITHIUM
LITHIUM

One way to instantly command/get back respect is by always telling the truth, even if it hurts. But then learning to say it in a way that doesn't offend or make the other person feel more bad than they need to. You can start by writing a list of things you have been lying about to yourself and others.

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Bla Bla
Bla Bla

@Fonda William I wouldn't want to trust either of you two and what makes you think you aren't an abuser. You tell the truth... _when the situation calls for it._ Thát's what will gain you respect.

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Fonda William
Fonda William

DON'T DO THAT. THAT'S EXTREMELY BAD ADVICE. WHY INCRIMINATE YOURSELF WHEN U DONT HAVE TO. DO U WANT TO TRUST AN ABUSER, OR ME?

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PiNKi FLOYD
PiNKi FLOYD

@Ameen Nasar meanwhile many will buy the course lol

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Yin Yang
Yin Yang

There are people who treat honesty and truthfullness like a weakness. They take advantage if you for it.

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BackFireZz
BackFireZz

Sometimes the truth doesnt need to be said mate lol

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Luffytaro
Luffytaro

this is for myself guy still wacht the video tho 1) Have slow relaxed movement 2) Eye contact 3) Be non-reactive to hostillity 4) Be as big as your audience 5) Show conviction with your words 6) Show conviction with your tone 7) Speak slowly and add pauses between word 8) give value if not given back give them a threat

Vor Monat
Maximilian van Grevenbroek
Maximilian van Grevenbroek

This is just so helpfull! Even if I pick up only 1 or 2 of the good habits.

Vor Monat
jc
jc

the first step to confidence is convincing yourself you are repeat it til you believe and you'll achieve it

Vor 2 Monate
JackRussel Pupper
JackRussel Pupper

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Vor Monat
Farizi Kun
Farizi Kun

I've tried the first tips (move slowly and relaxed) and "unintentionally" did it in front of my mother. She told me to do dishes when I was just arrived from gas station. I slowly stop at the terrace, gaze straight to her eyes. Then nodding Her reaction was: "Please don't do that again. Some people may feel intimidated and beat you later." Conclusion, the tips was definitely legit.

Vor 2 Monate
Hysterical
Hysterical

@Ex nihilo nihil fit how is my interpretation weird? He literally just said his ma warned him to not do it as it could lead him to getting beaten. How is that commanding respect? How is that legit?

Vor 8 Tage
bill bill
bill bill

Then the dishes clapped.

Vor 8 Tage
Magdalena
Magdalena

😭😭😭

Vor 10 Tage
Jan Mac
Jan Mac

Don't mess with your mother 😄

Vor 20 Tage
Hysterical
Hysterical

@La Guarida de Chaz I just can't see that. To me, if a person does this to me or people in my area, it is taken as quite the negative thing, it means you shouldn't be trusted, and people should keep an eye on you till you leave. I genuinely see nothing about commanding respect or anything remotely positive.

Vor Monat
Gourav Cheema
Gourav Cheema

Be yourself. There are people who will love your character so do what ever u want to do. People will definitely 💯 love u❤❤

Vor 18 Stunden
Cindy G
Cindy G

I remember watching him in inception and thinking how cute he was and what a good actor he was. Now watching him as Thomas Shelby,,,geez what a amazing actor.

Vor Monat
SELF PEACE
SELF PEACE

Trauma-Makes him more tremendous throughout everything, I knew that because my past was full of harmful incidents not many people know about that, Thomas Has returned after world War he was traumatized and he knew how much pain he's been through

Vor 11 Tage
CRASS2047
CRASS2047

I feel like all of this is something a secure, confident person just knows and doesn’t need to be taught.

Vor 2 Monate
NS777
NS777

“How to command respect” Apparently, just know what people are thinking at all times, and don’t have fear.

Vor 2 Monate
Matt Hartman
Matt Hartman

There is a simpler explanation; - don’t let your emotions dictate your behavior. It’s as simple as that. If you keep your emotions in check and instead act on sound reason and logic while remaining confident in your reasoned choices, that kind of body language will come naturally.

Vor Monat
Azrar Sanip
Azrar Sanip

Peaky Blinders is a full package of everything,,characterizing,context etc

Vor 23 Tage
Brianna' SVH
Brianna' SVH

This is so true! I've had people try and tell me how to behave because my temper is weird. Idc! I said what I said, and I'mma react genuinely. If I don't think what you said was funny.... why would I laugh! Go play with someone else! 💯💢💥

Vor Monat
Marcus Constantine
Marcus Constantine

In summary for the average clumsy introvert: 1. Make reasonably long eye contact. Give a little nod if you wanna be not rude. Smile on command if you know how. 2. Move slowly and orderly. Erratic movement, confused hands and excessive head turning will ruin the Shelby vibe. 3. Think before you speak so you can choose the right words and CUT OUT unnecessary things. Talk slowly too.

Vor 2 Monate
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Sigma grindset 💪😤

Vor Monat
Henry Adams
Henry Adams

@Agni Das deplete their patience, and win

Vor Monat
Bon Summers
Bon Summers

@Marcus Constantine Better to be like the Red Fox.

Vor 2 Monate
Marcus Constantine
Marcus Constantine

@Agni Das Omg.. having reread my writing, you're absolutely right lol.

Vor 2 Monate
Agni Das
Agni Das

so ... be that sloth front desk clerk/secretary at the police station from Zootopia, Gotcha :P

Vor 2 Monate
HijaDelMar6
HijaDelMar6

There's definitely something to be said about a confident stare. A couple years ago, I was walking into the drugstore and this man comes up right behind me. He's walking right behind me, right on my heels, with his body kind of 'spooning' me like trying to separate me from the rest of the store, and he tells me he's following me, compliments me on my looks, asks if I have a boyfriend, if my boyfriend will beat him up if he talks to me, that kind of jazz. I continue to make my way to my coveted TP, humoring him to a few 'hmm!..' and 'you don't say!..' along the way. I make it to TP island, and by then I've about had enough of his smothering, so I don't know what his question is in that moment, but I just turn my head to him, stare for a second, exhale loudly...... And I think I was going to tell him something along the lines of 'look, good sir, can a gal collect her monthly supply of TP without becoming a target to a pimp?..' The thing is, instead what happened is I blinked at that point, and between me closing my eyes and re-opening them, the dude had gone from standing right next to me to being a few yards away making a quick exit to the back door. I was left almost disappointed of having been robbed of my snarky remark...

Vor 2 Monate
HijaDelMar6
HijaDelMar6

@RAJU BHAI Sorry for my late reply. I think the bottom line is that a would-be predator stops being one the second the 'victim' refuses to play that role... It takes 2 to tango, as the saying goes... ;)

Vor Monat
Ex nihilo nihil fit
Ex nihilo nihil fit

What's TP?

Vor Monat
RAJU BHAI
RAJU BHAI

A lot of things comes into play regarding your situation ofcourse I am glad you made it out and yup confidence triggered him to fled away, i mean intially he might have thought that he's the one who's following you but after that glare i mean after travelling quite a distance to the place where you gave that glare , he might have thought that you are the one who's leading to your turf and touch me if you can vibe in my turf kinda thing

Vor 2 Monate
Jimmy Recard
Jimmy Recard

These tips are great, and as an actor it’s very helpful knowing you aren’t actually about to be shot.

Vor Monat
Zappy
Zappy

I learnt the carrot stick approach to remuneration requests from my last manager. Used it to obtain a promotion and solidified my position within a new team.

Vor 2 Monate
LordDaveKoresh
LordDaveKoresh

learning body language from fiction is folly. easy to look confident when you are written in for the next couple of seasons eh.

Vor Monat
CarsonECA
CarsonECA

David Wright from Survivor would be a great example of someone who had the worst confidence and by the end of his season was one of the most confident people in the room. I hope you guys can cover him because he would be a great example of someone who built that internal confidence by taking risks and understanding the world around him was less scary than he thought. Keep up the good work!

Vor 2 Monate
stuntmastermonkey
stuntmastermonkey

agreed cover him^^

Vor 2 Monate
ffsdfef efsfes
ffsdfef efsfes

I think the most interesting thing about his character is the fact that in the show he doesn`t fear death, that`s what most soldiers in ww1/2 were taught. Not to fear death, especially in those wars because of heavy gas use and VERY heavy use of machineguns by the german side (ww1 mostly)

Vor 27 Tage
Fonda William
Fonda William

if you have to be taught that, you might not be such a great soldier. bravery and valiantry are not something you can teach. Neither is a non-chalant attitude.

Vor 19 Tage
Damian Lopez
Damian Lopez

Difficult to do especially if you suffer from paranoia or panic attacks or an anxious disorder. Even mild schizophrenia can hamper your ability to have good body Language.

Vor 2 Monate
raub columbo
raub columbo

Could this apply the same way to Michael Scofield from Prison Break ? Also, another great character to analyze would be Hank Moody from Californication or Patrick Jane from The Mentalist ;)

Vor 2 Monate
Gibster
Gibster

Had a guy from work just role up on me talking about how I fcked something up. I didn't react to him at all and just simply explained how that is not possible that I caused the issue. Then asked him a couple of questions about how long he'd been working here and told him I've been working here nearly a decade longer than him. I mentioned I've never been so disrespected by a coworker approaching me in that manner and offered to him if we need to get into a group chat with our managers. It was very satisfying to see how quickly he backed down and then we were able to handle the situation civilly and figured out what the actual problem was to avoid it in the future. Only thing that still irks me is he never apologized for his behavior other than saying "My bad." like My dude "my bad," is not an adequate apology for disrespecting someone by blaming them for something when you have no evidence for it.

Vor Monat
J Awesomes
J Awesomes

Lol I've been using the carrot stick tactic for years 🤣 I don't know how many promotions I've gotten but with this inflation I'm going to go ask for another 🤣

Vor Monat
Future PA in the Making
Future PA in the Making

I do alot of the things you mentioned without even realizing it. I love Peaky Blinders it is a brilliant show, If you haven't seen it check it out.

Vor Monat
Ben Ho
Ben Ho

One way to interpret this is the quieter you are, the more power and high status you have, because you know, you don't have to talk, to make yourself strong.

Vor 2 Monate
Tls123
Tls123

But no all quiet are like this. There are some quiet ones who doesn't retaliate if they're being bullied and that makes them look down upon by other people. It's better to have a few bad rumors surrounding you which will psychology think you are kind of a strong.

Vor Monat
Richard Tannor
Richard Tannor

ironically I do this off instinct, didn't know this was the reason no one messes with me 🤣🤣🤣

Vor Monat
Anderew Handbrige
Anderew Handbrige

He’s one of those men where when they speak it’s actually important and sharp.

Vor Monat

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