Causes of Hoarding

Name
Name

My parents went through the Great Depression, and us kids were taught to not through anything out, “because you might need it someday.” So we had baby food jars filled with random screws, nails etc, stacks of lumber (one foot long or longer), many bundles of newspapers and magazines, too many tires to count, etc. Even today I get anxiety attacks just thinking about clearing stuff out...”BUT WHAT IF I NEED THAT LATER?!?” And while I understand the logic and reason of getting rid of stuff, the emotional fear of not having something overcomes logic.

Vor 3 years
Dana Caro-herman
Dana Caro-herman

@marillion 4th 😂😂😂 partially true!!

Vor 4 Monate
Daniel Smith
Daniel Smith

My G ma. Same I don't waste food or anything. She thought me that. Thankful. 🙂🙏♿🇺🇸

Vor 10 Monate
Graham Will
Graham Will

@Riley Dakota happy to help xD

Vor year
Riley Dakota
Riley Dakota

@Graham Will thanks, I went there and it seems like they got a lot of movies there :) I appreciate it!

Vor year
Cindy C.
Cindy C.

I am married to a hoarder. I’m a neat freak and hate clutter. I love him but I have had to work extremely hard to keep our life free of debris. Every single day of my life. Sometimes I get so angry because these are his demons, not mine, but yet I have to deal with it every day of my life. The stress of throwing away even a small thing like a worthless old receipt or clothes from the 80’s etc. it’s not fair. Every day I basically have to put on my boxing gloves and fight for my home and yard. I have recently battled a brain tumor but I still have to fight his disorder every day. I’m so tired.

Vor year
Carolina D.
Carolina D.

I’m married to one too. It brings me so much anxiety to look at the piles he creates all over the place. It’s infuriating to me. It’s also EXHAUSTING to both look at and even talk about it. No matter how many times I bring up the subject, it keeps on happening. We discuss it, he cleans an area out (takes sometimes two days to clean), leaves it sparkling ✨ and the process starts all over again. I love him but this is such an awful disorder, I don’t know how long I can stick around.

Vor 9 Monate
luciashine1129
luciashine1129

I have personal experience with these issues. I have spent many years working aggressively on them through therapy with alot of progress. He explains the thought process of hoarding brilliantly. Somewhat painful to watch as everything he said describes what i go through so perfectly. Anyone who hoards or knows a hoarder should watch this. Please don't shame people who have this disorder. It is a sad and debilitating problem.

Vor 5 years
Cee Gabe
Cee Gabe

@KTA Official Channel Bet you it is related to health problems, pains in body, brain fog and nutritional deficiencies, lack of exercise, poor interpersonal relationships and/or deep seated DEPRESSION.

Vor year
Kate
Kate

@Jane Doh you are most welcome. of course you love your dad. i wish you both best of luck and success.

Vor year
Jane Doh
Jane Doh

@Kate thanks for the kind words. I still alternate between giving up and helping. No matter what or how angry he makes me, I still love and admire my father. I was just upset when I wrote that. I suppose I was venting.

Vor year
Kate
Kate

@Jane Doh It is wonderful that you loved your father enough to care and equally wonderful that you have realised when you had to stop. Just because you had to give up all is not lost. You can't fix anyone that doesn't help themselves. I wish you well. Please ask your Doctor for support if you are feeling vulnerable and drained. Pour your energy into you. You are worth it. You did succeed because you tried so hard.

Vor year
Jane Doh
Jane Doh

I recently gave up on my hoarding father. Shame doesn’t even work anyways. But I have a mountain of resentment towards. A lifetimes worth. Especially when I think of life could have been. If I’d known how things were going to end up, I would have killed myself a long time ago.

Vor year
Nangid Kram
Nangid Kram

Dr Randy Frost. You have nailed it! I am a hoarder who exhibits all of those traits. If I meet you once, ten years later, I'll remember the tiny details of the meeting like the piece of wayward cotton on your shirt. I can find a screw, but, bolt if piece of plastic in a room full of thousands of things. I know I have this so try to limit myself to picking up small metal fixings, bolts etc when I am out. I have quite the collection. Thanks for the insight.

Vor 6 years
nettle neesox
nettle neesox

Hoarding is driven by a feeling of extreme loss, then an attachment to the fear of more loss.

Vor year
Roxsan Ambrosini
Roxsan Ambrosini

Makes so much sense. My life is unmanageable due to collecting, saving, hoarding. This information is different. Maybe I have a chance this time...Thank you....

Vor 6 years
Master Kixana
Master Kixana

Did you get it?...

Vor 3 years
fashehc
fashehc

Thank you for a new awareness of this issue. i would like to add more: Keeping things/papers out and not filed away, but eventually piled is supposed to remind one to work on it such as read it, pay it, order it, file it, but more stuff that needs working on gets piled on top and life gets in the way. Also keeping some items that the rest of the world thinks is trash is a method of making trash into treasures. How many art pieces have we seen that creatively did just that? My mother, the artist, did the latter, and art was the result. I do the former till I realized that my being sidetracked needed to be tamed and to make time for filing. I have created File Friday, but how many Fridays have passed sidetracked into something else?

Vor 2 years
Daina Gibbs
Daina Gibbs

One of the best analysis I've heard. I tend to look at objects that are expected to be tossed as things that could serve another purpose, but usually as something I can make out of it. I had to learn to "improvise" when we didn't have the necessary ingredients or objects or tools as methods needed to obtain equivalent goals or functions.

Vor 7 Monate
Kellie Thorne
Kellie Thorne

I've always had a tendency towards hoarding, but it has become exacerbated recently with a series of personal losses of a mother and also a romantic partner if 15 years. I know the brain damage I suffered in a car accident 35 years ago really affected my ability to make decisions and now the losses have probably exacerbated my depression. I think I will ask for some more anti-depressant help.

Vor year
Rose Viola
Rose Viola

I think this is an element of hoarding but only one piece of the puzzle. There are other factors: grief, pain, lack of energy, and many other things.

Vor 2 years
Esmerelda Pinchon
Esmerelda Pinchon

Definitely. Gaping holes in what this guy is saying. So focused on brain function, missing the real causes.

Vor year
Mary Mary's Market
Mary Mary's Market

@nettle neesox yes..a very practical...do-able help.

Vor year
nettle neesox
nettle neesox

@Dale Redpath Put a timer on for 15 minutes and go through some stuff. There is always 15 minutes somewhere in a day.

Vor year
Dale Redpath
Dale Redpath

Not only that, but also just not making time to sort through stuff and get rid of it.

Vor year
Miss So Opinionated
Miss So Opinionated

@Rose Viola I’m shaking that ish in 2020 believe that my other page I’m going to start a series

Vor year
One Of You
One Of You

Anxiety, loss, loneliness, grief or inability to process grief....... Those are the causes I know of.

Vor year
wildlife gardens sydney
wildlife gardens sydney

This is so pertinent. Thank you Dr Frost you explained this perfectly. These brain functioning differences, information processing differences and information overload is exactly it. This is also very much how people on the autism spectrum process information (too much leads to overload). SO many creative uses for everything suddenly causes paralysis . There are huge differences and difficulties in decision making-the moment a hoarder holds an object to make an (anxiety provoking) decision about it going. Creativity run amok. Decision making nightmare. Then add to that so many possible life scenarios …..Miss Havisham like…..the 30 years of an untouched room of a murdered child full of smells , good memories and love…..or the stories behind the grief, trauma, loss, shame, insecure attachment to caregivers as an infant. The hidden despair. The child of a parent that suicides, paralysed with fear when going through their parent’s things. The fear of discarding something that may be a pivotal piece and hold the answer to why they suicided?….why they left them?….the objects and photos looked at over and over……the answers over a lifetime that never come…..Abandonment issues…..of estranged children….Then there is the beautiful constancy of a “LOVE” object, such as much loved childhood teddy for an isolated only child, or a street kid. Many who grew up deprived of a benevolent special person, or unconditional love. Then those or grew up with childhood cptsd. Many others truly feel the dead family members objects are like they are still with them (presence) in special and unique ways. For instance a soft jumper still smells of their mother’s smell and perfume. Wearing it is like a soft hug they wish they had from them. Or a mother and cancer survivor looking and smelling the baby clothes of her grown up children who are too “busy” to visit. The total number of traumatic life events correlate significantly with the severity of hoarding. For some, resources and survival are so hard to come by and nothing goes to waste. When someone has nothing for example in a 3 rd world slum, or refugee camp, or a street kid that ran away. A safe home (with things) to shelter in (after the horrors of the street predators) is like a dream. They want to have all the things they never had. They never were taught how to clean, or organise. They like to rescue an objects (like they wished they were rescued from abuse). Then there are the many primary school teachers who has so many resources and teaching things, as they just never know what grades they will have next. I think hoarders have significant difficulty with Executive Functioning and Initiation too. I would like to hear what Dr Frost thinks about that?

Vor 3 Monate
Cynthia Ennis
Cynthia Ennis

I agree...esp. w/ADD...true about creativity & ideas of what we can do with certain items, some lose the ability to focus or hyper focus...having way too many thoughts in their heads...so overwhelming they cannot possibly organize all of the overwhelming thoughts due to an incredible amount of much prolonged stress...I don’t know, but as the thoughts become unmanageable, so does the living space!

Vor 4 years
sweetpeace5
sweetpeace5

Cynthia Ennis Yes it’s an anxiety disorder

Vor 3 years
no peace
no peace

Autism comes with the same way of looking at too much information and not being able to filter things out

Vor 4 years
Cynthia Ennis
Cynthia Ennis

Some may also have brain damage...I say this mostly based on what I have learned about my own brain through The Amen Clinic...and truly, Dr Amen really does know what he is doing! The testing is very extensive/exhausting & I’m very glad I got some answers...makes much sense!

Vor 4 years
Laura eLLe
Laura eLLe

Cynthia Ennis is this Dr Kevin Amen?

Vor 3 years
J Ol
J Ol

I am a close family member to a hoarder, and most of this I have figured out myself- but it is nice to get it confirmed that I am not the "mad" one. (I don't say hoarders are either)

Vor year
Matthew Flowers
Matthew Flowers

I had a friend who's parents hoarded and I think he did too. I saw him go through the exact struggle that's described here time and time again. He was by far the most creative person I've met and I hope someday he and his parents can find treatment as it caused them a lot of distress.

Vor 6 Monate
NefFy
NefFy

I can tell you personally you’re right about all this because I feel like a lot of people throw away things that they think are useless but I could see so much potential for I could use it for so many things that is not useless to me and they are just blind to itBut also living a normal life wasteful but normal

Vor year
ibrudejude
ibrudejude

I never was a hoarded until around 2005. I was always organized and OCD about it. I have went through so much struggle since 2005. I became a compulsive shopper then the hoarding started.

Vor 2 years
Rolling Withthepunches
Rolling Withthepunches

Wow! That’s a flip. I can see how OCD could turn into that.

Vor year
Nadia Elisian
Nadia Elisian

My mom is a hoarder and is now homeless. Her car is full of stuff. She shops compulsively, which idk where she gets the money. We are trying to get her into a rehab shelter with therapy. It has been like having a child who can’t make their own decisions. Not fun to be around her, but I love her and will Do everything to help.

Vor 2 years
Z Z.
Z Z.

Don't pay attention to the comment the person left you.To leave such a comment, this person is a horrible person.She is the one who should be ashamed to leave you such a comment!Trying to bully you.Good luck to you, hope your mother will be alright, continue the fight.

Vor 7 Monate
Jenny Propis
Jenny Propis

@Miss So Opinionated They sure are!!!!

Vor year
Miss So Opinionated
Miss So Opinionated

@Jenny Propis I swear ppl are so insensitive these days

Vor year
Miss So Opinionated
Miss So Opinionated

@groalerable shidddd she got money we can get a house together or get an rv and travel around 😂

Vor year
Jenny Propis
Jenny Propis

@Miss So Opinionated Your are so very correct!!!!!

Vor year
Cee Gabe
Cee Gabe

Consider ALSO chronic fatigue, EXTREME lack of energy like a dimly lit light bulb, (invisible to others-health problems), brain fog which hampers ability to focus or remember things, loneliness, depression, lack of proper exercise and nutrients. No future plans for participating in motivating accomplishments. No healthy interpersonal relationship networks where one interacts with others normally. DEPRESSION. DEPRESSION. DEPRESSION

Vor year
Morpheus Zzz
Morpheus Zzz

This is in response to several comments made by someone who is not understanding how families can be "so evil" and not just allow people to live this way if it makes them happy. That person leaving these comments says it doesn't affect others. I wholeheartedly disagree. It does affect others. The rest of the family has to live with the results of the hoarder's disorder. I grew up in a household like this. Same issues as others on here; I was embarrassed to have friends over, we had to keep it all a secret, etc. "Friends" I never hung out with would randomly pop in just so they could see what the house looked like and if it lived up to the rumors. There was no validation about how it affected everyone else in the family; we were just expected to deal with it because it wasn't an issue for Mom. After all the kids grew up and moved away, we spent the next decades begging her to let us help her at least organize things in labeled boxes. (It's been over 30 years since I lived there and I'm the youngest of five, so add another 20 years for my older siblings.) We didn't ask her to get rid of anything, just to make sure it wasn't a fire hazard, help her find it when she needed it, etc. In her mid-80s, she died two months after a cancer diagnosis--no time left for her to deal with it as she may have liked--and 2 of her 5 children (my sister and I) were left to deal with the mess. A 3-bedroom house with a full basement packed full, an oversized 2-car garage/shop with a full attic above, an extra shed in the backyard--ALL completely packed full of stuff. Funnily enough, there was very little from our childhood left that we had any emotional attachment to. She seemed to have cleared out all sentimental items and refilled the place with stuff she picked up from thrift stores, auctions, or infomercials. We had to take a month out of our lives--off work and away from our children--and go several states away to sort and auction her belongings, then clean up the mess. Five weeks of 12-15 hour days dealing with her disorder, as well as the PTSD caused by being forced to be back in that environment. There was no love there. She had a lot of nice and/or valuable items; however, some of it wasn't taken care of because it was all piled up and jumbled together. She had old coins and jewelry in the basement that had been sitting in water after a spring flood. There were so many things of value that it was TOO much for auction so money was lost. It wasn't feasible to sell things online. We live over 1200 miles away. What would it have cost us to haul all that shit back home in order to sell it slowly? The auctioneer was selling things like Hummel figurines by the box load for the price she paid for one figurine. In her mind, she may have thought she was leaving us things of value, but instead she left us only with frustration and anger toward her as well as a sense of betrayal. She always complained about living on a fixed income (so we sent her money) but after she died we saw that even up to a few months before her death, she was ordering things like a $3,000 vacuum cleaner that was still in its box. We learned she spent a lot of time in casinos. It cost us more to go deal with her house than we'll ever get back out of it. It's been a year since her death and I still feel more anger than actual grief. She didn't care. She didn't care how it affected us when she was alive, or when she knew she was dying, she never apologized for leaving us to deal with it. She obviously didn't really care about us at all. It was a nightmare our whole lives. It DOES affect others. Yes, you can feel pity for people who struggle with this disorder, but it is also very selfish to make everyone else suffer from it as well--maybe even more than the hoarder him/herself. I admire the people commenting on here who recognize this issue in themselves and are doing their best to get counseling to help them overcome it. This is not the kind of legacy you want to leave after you are gone. PLEASE don't do this to your families.

Vor 2 years
Morpheus Zzz
Morpheus Zzz

@S. Hurd Thank you. That stubbornness is no joke! I don't know the answer. I think it's like narcissism in they may not see the problem in themselves and like alcoholism/addiction in they have to find their own way out of it. I encourage those living with a hoarder to learn how to set their own personal boundaries to protect their own mental health.

Vor 10 Monate
S. Hurd
S. Hurd

The problem I've seen with hoarders is an incredible stubbornness. You can't get through to them. I'm sorry for what you went through. What a nightmare!! What's the answer?

Vor 10 Monate
R CB
R CB

@C H Good Luck, C H. Sorting out someone else’s stuff is challenging. My Mum had gone to a Care Home but for my Dad and I, it felt like a bereavement. Sadly, my Dad died with covid in April 2020. I have one box of his belongings... Start soon, set yourself and your loved ones free.

Vor year
R CB
R CB

@Morpheus Zzz Excellent comment, Morpheus Zzz, my plan is similar to yours.

Vor year
Morpheus Zzz
Morpheus Zzz

@C H My husband's uncle left everything extremely organized, right down to everything paid for, services planned, etc. and all documents in a file box in his closet. We only needed to call the numbers he provided to alert people his time had come. We were able to focus on grieving and not everything else. I hope to be somewhere in the middle--I know I would never be as organized as he. Doing your best will show your family you care. 🙂

Vor year
Jenny Propis
Jenny Propis

Have you ever thought that a person is lonely cause they grew up in a very dysfunctional family. Where the only important person in the family was the father, and the mother and father made decisions that would only benefit them, and disregard their children's wishes? Where some children were left along for periods of time as punishment, or because they no longer wanted to care for their children. Where one child would be a social outcast due to her sister's lies about her sister? Where the victim did everything in their power to help ALL the family members no matter what? And now when she needed friends the most, she did not have them due to her stunted social skills? Where each child only thought of themselves. where in older age they decided not to help their siblings in need?

Vor year
Rolling Withthepunches
Rolling Withthepunches

My dad was an sob and my mom was a doormat. He ruled. He’s been dead for years and I still hate his guts. I hate her too.

Vor year
Linzilezzi
Linzilezzi

I think for me I know I have a little problem is being scared of letting go of the good times that happened when I got the stuff

Vor 6 years
Mineral
Mineral

They're already gone. The moment has already passed and you can't go back to it by any means. You have a memory of it and that's all an object is triggering in you. You don't need an object to reminisce, though. Your brain will store it if it matters. And if you forget it, then you won't know the difference.

Vor year
Dale Redpath
Dale Redpath

And ignoring the crappy time you're creating right now due to having so much stuff that it impacts the way you live (negatively)

Vor year
Lisa Palmeno
Lisa Palmeno

Linzilezzi scrapbook some of it

Vor 4 years
Ash
Ash

Linzi Lipinski Take a picture of every object, and then get rid of it. You won't have a diminished emotional reaction looking at the picture most times, and then you can have a small box of pictures rather than a room full of stuff!

Vor 5 years
Joyfullness
Joyfullness

If I understand what you said correctly, the way hoarders process information is different to how most of us do it. What is your opinion on one big cause being not to be able to let go? The way I see it, hoarders are not able to let go of anything and that starts the hoarding behaviour. Ad the way of giving items value seems to be an "excuse" or a consequence. Not wanting to let go of anything, because even this bottle cap starts to be beautiful to them if they just look at it hard and long enough.

Vor 5 years
Ash
Ash

Joyfullness Hoarding is due to them hoarding difficult or traumatic MENTAL experiences, and hoarding is a PHYSICAL manifestation of that. When we throw things away, they get so upset because they have not finished processing or given their memories a proper goodbye.

Vor 5 years
Aaron G.
Aaron G.

It’s driven by fear of loss.

Vor 2 years
S Searle
S Searle

No, it's driven by actual loss, and the fear and trauma from that.

Vor 9 Monate
MAD SAUCE
MAD SAUCE

Thank you!

Vor year
Aribella
Aribella

Aaron Garcia that’s it in a nutshell. I live with someone who has this because his wife left him years ago. That’s when it started I’m told.

Vor year
Private Private
Private Private

This and the previous video have been the most informative and most closely related to what I’ve seen and experienced within myself to an extent. Another thing is that, while society loves to chastise hoarders, as in many other aspects of life, society is often a big enabler. What I mean by this is that, more so than ever, a big area of store sales, along with the abundance of everything else they offer, much of which is cheap to acquire, are storage items - bins, containers, shelving, etc. I would suspect that, despite its almost antiseptic profile, The Container Store survives off of and even may encourage hoarding. Buying bins, whether clear or opaque, has a redeeming quality and makes it so one does not need to make decisions, as long as they organize it. That, within their psyche, as well as those of others who may visit them, instead of being a hoarder, or even merely a clutter bug, they’re actually a “neat freak.” The reality is that all it is is a wolf in sheeps clothing, meant to fool the wolf, as well. Also, stores like TJ Maxx, HomeGoods and Marshall’s offer a shopping experience which dictates “shopping without thinking” because they often have but one of each item or they have shipped pieces of a set to different locations. They’ve also begun to eliminate layaway. So, what this means is that you buy it now or miss it. You can miss it if the person next to you grabs it or if you think about it while in the next aisle. So, it creates an emergency of not thinking and simply buying. Another thing which has contributed to hoarding is societal instability, political, economic and even changes in weather patterns (expecting fewer, but more damaging, storms). The feeling that tomorrow might not come causes one to hoard and feel that they have excellent, indisputable reason to do so. We live in a society that says, “Eat and acquire! Just don’t gain weight and hoard!” These are mixed messages that are not always easily handled. In addition, I think many know what it’s like in the modern day workforce. The necessity of being overworked and/or having multiple jobs has become such a norm that society, including close friends and family can be indifferent to one’s plight. Sometimes, the only soothing one has is to stop off at the mall on pay day and pick up a little of this or a little of that. A bit of reward for their woes. Wound-licking even. But all of these things, sometimes not so little, wind up being a hoarding situation. You can have them but, have no real use for them or can’t access them. You may even pay for a storage unit to hold onto them, exponentially depleting you resources so you actually end up buying and then renting what you’ve bought, even if you purchased it cheap at a garage sale or got it for free.

Vor 4 years
Private Private
Private Private

Miss So Opinionated the disposable lifestyle is not one I’ve been able to grasp. While I completely understand the argument that holding onto things I don’t need or use slows me down, I don’t feel I always hold onto things for the typical reasons I’ve always seen stated about hoarders. Some things may be true like a special relationship with objects. But, speaking for myself, because I’ve needed to abandon a narcissistic family, sentimentality isn’t an issue for me. Having issues with spacial understanding isn’t a problem. I know when a room is cluttered and I very much appreciate being able to see the floors and tabletops. Despite the trend being to see how well you can store your entire life on a Lilly pad, it isn’t the era I come from so, I could use one extra room, if for no other reason than the fact that I have graphics equipment. Another is that I have regrets about how poorly life has gone. But, one of the things that does make me let go of things is $$$. Why? I know I’ll never get my wasted time back. Time wasted on useless, pointless things like stupid meetings, work projects that fizzled, my mother telling me she’d always used me. So, the best I can do is to try to make a bit of the money back as, money is always needed. Takes some of the sting out of wasted time. Time is life and people, typically, dance all over and dispose of your time. It’s their blithe way of subscribing to cheerful annihilation for you, when they’re actually conscious of it. It’s also part of the reason I have to be in one heck of a mood to donate anything. The people who are in need probably don’t “need” what I have and they are probably the same people who wouldn’t think much of what I have anyway, as society has become so minimalist. I’ve never been well off but, I’m aware that a great many feel that a chair and table is good enough. I happen to enjoy a bit of beauty. So, if I destroy instead of donate, that works as, no one cares anyway. In fact, most people care if they can get someone from someone for free, even by snatching it from them, than they care about the item itself, perhaps. But, yeah, selling and either saving the money or putting towards something else I like? That’s a motivator. I do think we all have to consider what life is becoming, however. That there are A LOT of people who are losing EVERYTHING and I take a deep breathe and know that it’s possible for me to become one of them. The only safety net I have is myself and that’s precarious. I know that, looking at my narcissistic mother, who’s lost me, perhaps, my sister, and is likely to lose her property, because her daughters aren’t interested in being abused. So very many, nowadays, are as part of a hunger game of sorts where, if you lose all you’ve worked for, it’s a simple giddy pleasure for someone else.

Vor year
Private Private
Private Private

Miss So Opinionated sorry, just got back to this. Feel free to use my comments. They are public. But, personally, I prefer to remain private.

Vor year
Miss So Opinionated
Miss So Opinionated

@Private Private that donating shit bothers the fuck outta me. Because where were people when I needed someone to talk to, to help me clean etc, when I’m ready to shed stuff I try to sell it online first if no one buys in a specified time I TRASH IT. I understand I worked hard and paid good money but the peace of mind is also just as enjoyable

Vor year
Miss So Opinionated
Miss So Opinionated

@Private Private so much of you and what you say resonates with me. I feel I’m way more qualified to deal with hoarders then these psychologist. For one I trained as a psychology major myself, secondly I’m an empath, I have experience dealing with several members of my family, lastly I’m one myself.... I would love to use your comments in my videos on my other page as well as personally document your journey. I would love the opportunity to work with you as well as help you but I don’t know how close you are to Virginia

Vor year
Private Private
Private Private

Miss So Opinionated yes, and I see myself caught in these cycles, this dynamic. I have too much for my space but, I know that my family has always tried to buy the “good stuff” when we can afford to do so. Nicely designed, well done, solid wood, marble, etc. Speaking for myself only, I’m pretty sure that I was not only buying, with the eye of a creative as, that’s what I do for a living. But, buying stability that is not really as part of this world. Perhaps, it’s why boot lovers buy boots — a feeling of stability. I still love what I have and hope to buy a home. But, in the past 2 years, this has been tripped up. I was to inherit one of my my mother’s 2 homes but, she turned into quite the abusive, malignant, covert narcissist. So, I find myself just getting started in my mid-fifties, during the unsure economic world of COVID and it’s economic fallout. I’ve become a Prepper, in the interest of what many consider to be a highly-possible dystopian future as, I know that, despite enjoying my solitude, I’m now isolated. There’s a difference. I’m glad that many of the items it have are nice quality, vintage. But, things have become so bare boned, I question the worth of everything and am just looking to curate to a comfortable level now. I never really considered myself to be a hoarder. I guess. Perhaps, I define myself more by lessened functionality, in terms of being able to pursue my dreams, despite house cleaning and organizing, than by the confinement of it. I don’t really have much interest in the world conveying, “Thats the space you have. If it doesn’t look like Pinterest and we don’t like it. You have more than you deserve!” I’m also disinterested in being told to give items away, because others might need some of it, as if I’m incidental to the acquisition of it. I know people who tell me, “Just throw it all out.” Do you REALLY think I show up everyday, to sit in a cubicle, to work for people who don’t care about me, doing things I don’t care about, in a place I’d rather not be, so I can rent an empty room?” The sign of a cluttered desk might be the sign of a cluttered mind, but the opposite is no less true...

Vor year
ibrudejude
ibrudejude

What can cause someone to become so out of control... It has to do with emotional need

Vor 2 years
Tee Pe
Tee Pe

I feel its filling up space to block out their loneliness and pain., house isn't so empty and large then. Could also be the loss of a long ago hope that never came to fruition and the hope it could still happen if I hold on to certain clothes etc

Vor year
Barbara Rankin
Barbara Rankin

You are the first to comment on the bottle cap which I struggled with in my partner. You obviously understand the hoarder. Thank you.

Vor year
ChinoPhilipReyes Reyes
ChinoPhilipReyes Reyes

I am a hoarder since i was 7 years old. I don’t know why, but I enjoyed being a hoarder. I also managed anyway, to throw away the least important or the ugliest stuff.

Vor 4 years
Kim Tali Shaffer
Kim Tali Shaffer

AS the husband of a hoarder, I can guarantee that creativity has zero to do with the condition. In my case, my wife creates an attachment to every single thing. Someone touched it or it belonged to the baby but he long outgrew it, we still have to keep it. She has filled 4 out-buildings and is now starting on the house, we cannot even invite anyone inside because she has piled up our living room and our son's room. I am at wits end. I am a 100% disabled army veteran and we are raising a non-verbal special needs son. I refuse to let her start piling up his room or our kitchen and bedroom. Every time I mention she needing therapy, she explodes and tells me how "stupid" I am. Where from here? This video was certainly not accurate.

Vor 3 years
ImAFuckingDuck
ImAFuckingDuck

Has the situation gotten better, changed, or gotten worse?

Vor year
Nitpicking Nerd
Nitpicking Nerd

@D Christina prayer never helped anyone its a waste of time

Vor year
D Christina
D Christina

Praying for you and your family

Vor year
Lisa Farrell
Lisa Farrell

This really helped, thank you..

Vor year
NiNi Na
NiNi Na

I agree with the creativity streak, and I suspect that it was often unappreciated by the world around these people. Order is overvalued compared to kindness, social skills, creativity, and knowledge by most people. If you abuse your children and hide it by dressing them neatly, staying thin and keeping your home in order perfectly, no one will notice unless somebody who does not overvalue order steps in. And everyone will regard you as a perfect family. This is not my story, but I have witnessed it. People often shame disordered people because they are happy to have found a "doormat" with a visible problem they can dump their problems on, and the hoarder becomes more and more ashamed and afraid to open up. Then they use their creativity to tell stories around items they do not need to protect themselves from more harm by other people because they have basically lost trust in anyone.

Vor 5 years
missmatch
missmatch

Oh my gosh, thank you for this comment!!

Vor 3 years
Sue- Enough is Enough
Sue- Enough is Enough

Well said

Vor 3 years
no peace
no peace

❤❤❤❤❤

Vor 4 years
luciashine1129
luciashine1129

You get it. Thank you for being kind. I wish more people were so understanding.

Vor 5 years
perfectdiamond32
perfectdiamond32

that's deep and I can relate.

Vor 5 years
Aart Lukaart
Aart Lukaart

There's a thing not mentioned: P A I N . As a child a haorder has gone through immense psycholigicalI pain/neglect. I don't mean the loss of a doll. I mean not beïng seen as an indivual with an own will and with real wants that were not fullfilled. This is the area of a psychiatrist and this psychologue only sees the superficial. He has no way to deal with the causes; he has never learned that piece of cake.

Vor 3 years
GallieSallie
GallieSallie

My mother was a hoarder and I watched four or 5 episodes of "Hoarders" until I couldn't any more - it was very painful to watch. What I have concluded is that everyone who is a hoarder has suffered a major trauma in their life. Another response here said that hoarders were abused children, that may be it, idk. My mother told me that she had an uncle who molested her. She didn't tell any of my other siblings only me and I'm not sure they believe me, but I feel that is why my mom hoarded.

Vor 2 years
66 Crush
66 Crush

I have always thought that if anyone "details" anything too much OCD , or this Hoarding or whatever was abused as a child... in fact I have never seen either that did not co-exist and as you state here it is largely looked over by Psychologists of all people, just a mystery to me...

Vor 2 years
M Powered
M Powered

@Laura eLLe GOD bless you sis for enduring with him and praying for and with him.

Vor 3 years
Laura eLLe
Laura eLLe

Aart Lukaart my husband had a terrible hoarding disorder when we married years ago. It was a terrible struggle for both of us. Although he is on the artistic side, I prayed and thought deeply for a very long time and, after observing him; gathering his history growing up and his young adult years, I came to the same conclusion. He had great loss and sadness, almost from birth, and even up until I met him. I believe, from my observations of my husband, that he has suffered such great loss in his life i.e. respect, family, friends, so he held onto things knowing that those things would not go away or die. Through the assistance of his very wonderful counselor, my prayers, patience and continually expressing that I would not leave him; things have become so much better. I think it will always nag him and may be always so, but we finally have a home that is very lovely, peaceful and comforting.

Vor 3 years
Avanelle Hansen
Avanelle Hansen

A big one for me is repurposing items. I was doing it before upcycling was a thing. Yes, creative. Don't want to replace, put in landfill.

Vor 10 Monate
Richard Dixon
Richard Dixon

You got it! Same with me. Grew up during the early '70s Keep America Beautiful/Earth Day/Population Zero era which must have made an extreme impression.

Vor 9 Monate
Don Tran
Don Tran

Can PTSD contribute to hoarding disorder? My dad and his entire family (i.e. his parents and siblings) have hoarding problem... My dad and his family born and raised in a rural areas of Vietnam during the Vietnam War days, where the Vietnam rural areas during the war where all the combat happens... Perhaps my father and his family got PTSD from they witness in Vietnam during the war, and it overall contribute to their hoarding problem?

Vor year
Watcher WLC
Watcher WLC

the processing of information, as described, the way an object might be evaluated, as described, reminds one of the way an artist, curator, or archaeologist might evaluate and assign importance to an object.

Vor 2 years
Jenny Propis
Jenny Propis

or even a Doctor or nurse.

Vor year
Wool Puppy
Wool Puppy

Thanks for uploading this. I'm trying to help myself

Vor 5 years
J. R. T.
J. R. T.

This also describes aspects of HSP’s.

Vor year
P Heart
P Heart

I have a slightly different problem. My mum hoards and collects. When it becomes necessary to throw something out she collects all the items she should be throwing away in bags and when she visits she hands it(and the responsibility for it)onto me,sometimes up to 5 carrier bags full of old books,clothes,ornaments etc). When I throw it out or give it to a charity shop she gets cross or teary eyed,and does her best to make me feel guilty. Its really spoiling our relationship,and I tell her again again and again not to bring bags of stuff up. I try to be kind but often end up getting cross. Its the guilt trip aspect that really annoys me. It almost feels passive/aggressive,like she is getting me to feel shame for disposing of stuff that is her responsability. I would welcome any advice.

Vor 3 years
P Heart
P Heart

@Dale Redpath thanks,that is helpful.

Vor year
Dale Redpath
Dale Redpath

Hmmm...I feel that I have dealt with guilt trips for various things. All I can offer is to either ignore it or set clear conditions beforehand. You can still get rid of stuff for her (which might be necessary, so I'd keep that going) but if you have clearly said what you will do and set the expectations, then if she gets upset that is on her. You don't ha e to make it her problem. I have noticed that I used to feel responsible for my parents being upset if it appeared to be because of what I did, but at some point I realised it was their problem not mine but I felt responsible because of an unhealthy attachment to then, basically I felt like I needed them to be happy, but I actually couldn't control that. When I got sick of guilt trips/disappointing them I tried to set expectations but it didn't help anyway. That's when I realised it was their problem they were upset (because they could have predicted the outcome) and I didn't have to make it mine. Just treat them like children, because that's sort of what is going on, they are acting immature and not being responsible

Vor year
David Jones
David Jones

I started hoarding 2 yrs after my Father died. For me it's books, and I go in a vicious cycle of buying and getting rid of them to charity shops. Far too many to read. It recently got worse with one of those bi-weekly magazine collections. Biting the bullet, and going to get rid of most of collection. Charity shop will get a windfall. Have to get my life back. Shocked into this after seeing pictures of hoarders rooms, and saw a mirror image of mine.

Vor 4 years
Rolling Withthepunches
Rolling Withthepunches

Maybe hang on to the old books. Books get edited all the time and they lose a lot. With the way things are going now and with the changes to history and all the political stuff, it would be smart to hang on to some of the older books. If you get rid of them, maybe sell them to homeschoolers snd people who will actually value them.

Vor year
Adamast
Adamast

Books are the one thing I most successfully remove. Every time I touch/move them I throw/donate the lesser 20% books away.

Vor 2 years
Vicki Smith
Vicki Smith

For many there is a lost or some grieving that started the hoarding as you pointed out in your start. I am surprised that he did not mention that. Perhaps, other Google searches can shed light on this catalyst.

Vor 3 years
Jude
Jude

I think this is spot on, unusual attention on some things . I offered my hoarder brother a jar of homemade jam then said or two ? I said 'maybe you won't eat two' , but he said 'two is better then one' , which was telling . No h s not creative he's very lazy , but is a retired electronics engineer,. So love detail and info. He hides what he's really like . But I know he likes 'finding out', so a 'ham radio' where no info given but plenty received .

Vor year
Jacklin Gharibian
Jacklin Gharibian

Hoarding is very similar to making art. It is a creative act. It helps the mind to manage and to express emotions and memories.

Vor 5 Monate
msbutterfly714
msbutterfly714

My mother is a hoarder as in piles 4-5 foot high, sad thing is we, including my father (R.I.P.) could never have no one over due to her hoarding, very embarrassing for us all, and I do blame her that her addiction or problem or whatever inflicted the whole family. Now that I am older, I slowly take stuff out of the house and donate it or chuck it. Little by little I will clean this up and no, I dont care what she says she can yell yada yada yada but to live in filth I am not going to stand for it.

Vor 5 years
Imran Akhtar
Imran Akhtar

I am in a very similar situation. My mum cant get rid of things in the house. It has also caused so much strain on me. What ever she gets she has a really hard time getting rid of it.

Vor 2 years
Morpheus Zzz
Morpheus Zzz

@MOONCAT🌙 I just posted something today (1-14-20). Please show it to your dad and BEG him not to do this to you. Unless he wants you to only remember him with anger, he needs to start seriously dealing with it NOW. If he loves you...

Vor 2 years
Dani P
Dani P

Theresa T why are you so mad though are you a hoarder?

Vor 2 years
MOONCAT🌙
MOONCAT🌙

Of coarse she should try and do something you can't wait forever. I am desperately trying to clear and huge arguments happen but It needs to be done and why should I be left with my dad's literal dump upon his death. I alone will be the one to deal with it so yes it can be family's business, it affects everything.

Vor 2 years
Teresa T
Teresa T

You come across as very controlling yada yada yada

Vor 3 years
sharpie. nails
sharpie. nails

That container with coins & a cork in it reminds me of what I do . But instead of a cork , I tend to toss a hair tie / clip in to things like that . Hmm    I must associate it with shopping ( money) & fixing my hair first lol   Eye opening Video Thank You !

Vor 6 years
Geoff Dearth
Geoff Dearth

I do think that creativity might enter into it.

Vor 5 years
Teresa T
Teresa T

I love seeing what hoarders collect. Weather it be empty coffee jars or antique collectables.

Vor 3 years
Rolling Withthepunches
Rolling Withthepunches

I wouldn’t let them take everything away from you. Make sure you’re healthy and safe and enjoy your collection. There are so many screwed up people in this world, as far as I’m concerned there is no ‘normal.’

Vor year
Mary Mary's Market
Mary Mary's Market

@Rolling Withthepunches And that would be me.

Vor year
Rolling Withthepunches
Rolling Withthepunches

I know hoarders who are organized snd they have really cool stuff. They have stuff that is great quality that you can’t find easily anymore. In a way, I think people like that are helpful because so many don’t appreciate the older stuff that was made to last.

Vor year
Tasha Nicole
Tasha Nicole

My stepson is a hoarder he’s 14. I believe it stems from the divorce of his parents. Also his mom and dad are pretty absent. Dad is ALWAYS at work and the mom doesn’t come around often. He hoards our dishes, food and water bottles, Pop cans,and food wrappers and containers. He also takes random things around the house, keys, chargers, my ring box, lighters etc. I am a social worker and I’ve told my husband many times that his son has some issues because he also binge eats as well. But my husband gets upset and says it’s just a normal teenager being lazy and he’s a growing boy so that’s why he eats like that and food disappears. Guys it’s really bad we barely have dishes because my step son takes them and hides and will throw them away if my husband gets pissed enough about his room. My husband is in complete denial and I don’t know what more I can do. We are moving and my husband made him empty his room. It took days and he has 8 contractor sized bags full of nothing but water bottles, food containers and wrappers, cans oh and our dishes that I pulled out. But yet he has no problem according to my husband. Plus the ex wife is a hoarder according to my husband and step daughter

Vor 4 Monate
NefFy
NefFy

I also think that ADHD and hoarding have a lot to do with each other and the symptoms overlap

Vor year
Rolling Withthepunches
Rolling Withthepunches

I think ADD is connected to OCD too.

Vor year
Marsha Florom
Marsha Florom

Dr,Frost, thank you for your help. I am getting rid of anything that is not important. Marsha .

Vor 2 years
Rolling Withthepunches
Rolling Withthepunches

Be careful. People need some things. It’s even ok to have some things you don’t need. If something has real value, it’s not wise just to throw it out. Some things can be sold if you don’t use them, trash can be thrown out, but things that are in good shape and you can actually use like pots and pans, blankets, towels, a set of dishes, mixing bowls . . . are actually necessities. Maybe make a list of things you think you really need in order to live would be helpful.

Vor year
Morris Wilburn
Morris Wilburn

If this psychologist’s theory is correct, why in many cases does the hoarder begin his hoarding behavior suddenly? Often after an emotionally traumatic event (e.g., divorce, death of a loved one).

Vor 5 years
Aart Lukaart
Aart Lukaart

Later, because in midlife one has other character-qualities that makes life manageble. Later the soul gets tired of making trips around the pain/ later one comes more to the core of the self and one has to deal with the pain/the character-disorder.

Vor 3 years
no peace
no peace

People who start hoarding suddenly after a trauma likely have biology/experiences that tend toward hoarding but hadn't been activated before.

Vor 4 years
no peace
no peace

There are different kinds and causes of hoarding.

Vor 4 years
Simple Stephy
Simple Stephy

My child father and his family have this problem, I'm trying so hard to help them but it's so difficult because I feel I'm on a different planet when I'm around them. Sigh

Vor 3 years
Geoff Dearth
Geoff Dearth

Isn't hoarding also a disease of affluence? Even though many hoarded items are gotten for free.

Vor 5 years
DP 63
DP 63

Yes. You barely ever see it in the Third World.

Vor 3 years
Kasia / Ask HR
Kasia / Ask HR

My dad's a hoarder. Cannot make decisions, this is totally true. Plus he thinks he might need the thing later.

Vor year
Russell Carr
Russell Carr

couldnt help notice a huge heavy piece of furniture filled with plates that never get used behind him.

Vor 2 years
Rolling Withthepunches
Rolling Withthepunches

Lol

Vor year
Joel Decoster
Joel Decoster

having nothing. or having too much, kids often want parents to keep everything and its crazy

Vor 3 years
Sarah Beloved
Sarah Beloved

I am hoarder and everything said here is true...

Vor 9 years
Enigma -
Enigma -

sweetpeace5 that’s not what he’s saying...he said there’s processing dysfunction

Vor 2 years
sweetpeace5
sweetpeace5

Sarah Davinia Seriously? You’re creative & see things different and that’s tge answer?? I disagree

Vor 3 years
Alison Browning
Alison Browning

I am a hoarder of sorts but very obsessed with tidiness and keeping my stuff in order, sure I have about 2,000 cat figurines, old dolls, books, vintage clothes, pictures, news paper articles, vintage china but they are carefully arranged on shelving, in boxes, labelled and organised according to colour and size, I love to clean up and tidy and archive things but if you asked me where I put the gas bill I'd have to say " no idea,it's in the boring box" the boring box is the box where bills and stuff like that get chucked in chaos. I have Aspergers syndrome so it is related to that I think. In that if interests me I am so organised it's painful but if it's what i call boring. ie bills and paper work I don't give a fig. i also have OCDs about cleaning and struggle to sit still, I potter about endlesly and have to be on the go, I only sit to watch stuff and write or draw.

Vor 7 years
Els
Els

Theresa T 😀 Agree! I dont know what people are doing in empty clean houses.? Only watching tv or playing games? I don t know .

Vor 2 years
Els
Els

Thats interesting.. Thanks for your story. It seems to me thats a asperger thing. In the dsm you can not call it a hoarder disorder but it is a part of the autisme. I am like you. I know a lot of woman who are the same. Also the theme of the hoarding: vintage clothes, dolls, etc. It became a problem when you are to ill to sort it out and clean it.

Vor 2 years
Teresa T
Teresa T

I can totally relate & I'm the same in many ways. I love what I have collected over the years but also very organised. Nothing worse than a cold employ boring house.

Vor 3 years
katman734
katman734

Hi, it sounds to me your a collector rather than a hoarder.

Vor 5 years
Dawn Marie
Dawn Marie

Dr. Frost, which part of the brain? Overactive? Underactive? Treatment?

Vor 5 years
TheOther
TheOther

I think it all boils down to emotional attachment to a bunch of useless stuff.

Vor 3 years
Rolling Withthepunches
Rolling Withthepunches

Really? Go figure.

Vor year
Daniel Smith
Daniel Smith

I've been.in a business that deals with this, respectfully, I disagree with you. Clinically yes,realistically, no. It's pure mental illness.

Vor 10 Monate
Michelle Mack
Michelle Mack

1 Have difficulty making decisions or multiple decisions within a short period of time so you put decisions off until "later". 2 See creative potential in every item. 3 Out of sight, out of mind. Buy more because you forget you have something similar because you can't see it 4 Like or admire too many different kinds of things, styles, eclectic gone wild. Everything is pretty. 5 Desire to rescue and save things.

Vor 17 Tage
Edward Falk
Edward Falk

Starting around 1:50. Explains why hoarders get really upset if you move things around.

Vor 14 Tage
Natalia Palovcak
Natalia Palovcak

My sister in law is a hoarder. It's sad because her three daughter's, teens now have been forced to live in fifthly conditions. This Tuesdays after two years of building up trust with her I cleaned out a room that was rat infested and filled from ceiling to floor with stuff. When she came home and saw the room cleaned she lost it!!! I told her it was a safety issue and that room was infested with rats. She is out of control mad and is threatening my brother and has banned me from visiting ever again. Any advise? Child services came out three times and did nothing.

Vor year
Duchesse de Berne
Duchesse de Berne

Bottlecaps are important in Fallout

Vor 4 years
Nitpicking Nerd
Nitpicking Nerd

Its future money :D . Hoarders will be rich

Vor year
Travelogs India !
Travelogs India !

Hi thanks .. this let me make the lessest use of materials in my life. We can live in few materials too..

Vor 4 years
Ceil Constante
Ceil Constante

interesting theroy. But I don't believe it! I come from a hoarder family. Everyone except me and my Dad! Mother, older sister, older brother and younger brother. Although younger brothers' wife seemed to correct it in him. He hasn't been a hoarder for 20 yrs since marriage. I have ADD and am the creative artistic one. The others are analytical. I literally get sick being in the mess. It's hard to tune it out. It's frustrating trying to prepare food or even take a shower! It takes two days after going to my own tidy minimal space to recover from visiting. I love them dearly, just can't be in an unfunctional cluttered space for long.

Vor 5 years
nancy R Burch
nancy R Burch

It’s likely that hoarders have a hard time picking a meal at a restaurant

Vor 3 years
Laura eLLe
Laura eLLe

nancy R Burch interestingly, my husband always knows where he wants to go to eat and what he wants to eat.

Vor 3 years
Offensive Username
Offensive Username

Capitalistic consumerists collect expensive sneakers instead of donating them, hoarders collect cheap bottle caps. What's worse?

Vor 7 years
Laura eLLe
Laura eLLe

Offensive Username neither is worse; both want more than is needed; neither is able to live with boundaries. It’s not wrong to have money, collections, things. But it’s not good when it interferes with any aspect of your health and never good to dislike a person for it, either.

Vor 3 years
harry Hand
harry Hand

My name is Jamie, I have been a hoarder for almost 15 years. I have been hoarding men's underwear. I was never like this when I was in my early twenties. How can I get my life back on track? I  am a person who suffers from  a general  Anxitey disorder.

Vor 7 years
sweetpeace5
sweetpeace5

harry Hand Hoarding is rooted in anxiety. Seek help to address your anxiety follow up with addressingthe hoarding

Vor 3 years
Beryl Simpson née Gillespie
Beryl Simpson née Gillespie

Pain in the neck living with someone like that.

Vor 6 years
Rolling Withthepunches
Rolling Withthepunches

Especially if you have OCD snd part of your symptoms is needing things organized. It can really get on your nerves.

Vor year
missmatch
missmatch

It's a pain in the neck to live with it if you are the hoarder, plus all the psychological stuff, too.

Vor 3 years
Cynthia Ennis
Cynthia Ennis

Beryl Simpson née Gillespie I bet they think the same of YOU! 😉😉

Vor 4 years
Nangid Kram
Nangid Kram

Ha! My Missus is slowly going crazy.

Vor 6 years
Pearl Fazli
Pearl Fazli

Hoarder on the lose in Fairfield apartment please help us!

Vor 2 years
Barbara Rankin
Barbara Rankin

What do I do next, if possible with my partner?

Vor year
Marnee DeRider
Marnee DeRider

So, if you took a hoarder and put them in a hunter-gatherer society, where there just aren't a lot of man-made things, how would their particular mental outlook play itself out? Might it not be a problem? I really don't know, but about the only thing they would be able to hoard would be natural things (sticks, pinecones, etc.) Have we ever heard of this problem from any historical documents for centuries ago, or observed in modern hunter-gatherer societies? Maybe our unnatural modern society allows people's natural quirks to take hold and get the better of people, when in a more natural environment, it would be just....a quirk or maybe even some advantage to the community.

Vor 4 years
sweetpeace5
sweetpeace5

Marnee Pinch Very interesting thought there🤔I actually don’t see the creativity connection for a number of reasons that go much deeper than simply seeing things in greater detail. Nope.

Vor 3 years
Diane Jennings
Diane Jennings

Ok but rotten food mice and bugs. That is just sick they need mental help. Don't you think

Vor 2 years
Ralph Truman
Ralph Truman

love the china cabinet behind him

Vor 6 years
Ralph Truman
Ralph Truman

@Jenny Propis is it? can you elaborate i've never heard that.

Vor year
Jenny Propis
Jenny Propis

Ralph, you're too OBSERVATIONAL!!!! That's a HOARDING attribute!!

Vor year
V R
V R

I don't know... looks a little empty to me

Vor year
AndrewQAZX
AndrewQAZX

How often does he use that? He probably doesn't need it , lets throw it away

Vor 4 years
Speedy Gonzales
Speedy Gonzales

Ah yes but he is a collector not a hoarder (hehe ; )

Vor 5 years
NefFy
NefFy

WowwwwYou are the first person who has ever said that I literally to what I thought about it the whole time but all I have ever heard people say is that people for because of Some trauma in their past

Vor year
Kayla StormPrincess
Kayla StormPrincess

Interesting!

Vor 4 years
Diane Jennings
Diane Jennings

I organized it all but not trash. An old friend said I have organized chaos

Vor 2 years
Susan Graham
Susan Graham

I wish you would have shared which area of the brain. Do you have another video that shares that?

Vor year
acajudi100
acajudi100

Pack it all up, and just leave out,what you use.

Vor 2 years
sammavacaist
sammavacaist

Creativity run amok. Yes.

Vor year
Sylvia Polak
Sylvia Polak

I am a biologist from Europe and I am afraid I have lost the will to organize. Is there a way to prevent oneself from becoming a hoarder ?? I am scared to fall into this condition.

Vor 6 years
Why Tee
Why Tee

If you've lost the will to organize just get rid of everything you don't use and then you won't need to organize anything at all!

Vor 3 years
perfectdiamond32
perfectdiamond32

+Valentine Lion exactly. I don't know if all hoarders are lousy house cleaners but I don't really have the patience to clean my room or house and even spending 5 minutes of cleaning the frontyard is emotionally and physically draining to me but I don't feel tired climbing a thousand feet high mountain for 5 to 7 hours none stop even without food and water.

Vor 5 years
Kerri Ayling
Kerri Ayling

I love the super intelligence concept. Look... it's the Amazing Hoarding Woman..... able to leap tall, tottering piles of junk in a single bound! Watch her as she duels with her possessions through the disaster area and hurls them into the skip..... I said hurls them... Hang on, it seems stuck to her hand. Why can't she toss that junk? oh wait, she's asking a question... She's asking... Should she toss or keep this wooden spoon with a big gaping split down the middle. I'm suddenly not so sure about this intelligence thing after all...

Vor 5 years
sweetpeace5
sweetpeace5

Kerri Ayling 😂😂😂

Vor 3 years
lombmusic07
lombmusic07

Kerri Ayling hahaha that's me

Vor 4 years
Avanelle Hansen
Avanelle Hansen

I file vertically. New on top older toward bottom

Vor 10 Monate
Jeannie Martin
Jeannie Martin

Are You located in Massavhusetrs,? Do you see clients?

Vor 3 years
sweetpeace5
sweetpeace5

Jeannie Martin So he can tell you you’re just creative??

Vor 3 years
Kristine
Kristine

It is stressing to live with. You are living with a different mindset. Not for me.

Vor Monat
Lisa Adorns
Lisa Adorns

So now I wonder what's the difference between hoarding and cluttering. Or cluttering is the beginning?

Vor 5 years
Dale Redpath
Dale Redpath

I think someone with a hoarding problem would not just have clutter but would find it very difficult to part with the items that make up the clutter. Because they are attached to those items

Vor year
Elisabeth Keane
Elisabeth Keane

This is a creative thing

Vor 2 years
D Christina
D Christina

Creative my eye

Vor year
Water Lily
Water Lily

What puzzles me is where these hoarders find the money to buy so much stuff?

Vor 2 years
Miss So Opinionated
Miss So Opinionated

Same place you get your money WORK if not working 401k or SSI plus it doesn’t happen over night it takes years to get to that point

Vor year
Pearl Fazli
Pearl Fazli

Oh my gosh can someone please help Fairfield family hoarders please asap anyone care hoarders everywhere in NewYork

Vor 2 years
Pearl Fazli
Pearl Fazli

I live a apartment please some help me or give me advice on my apartment poor people family it’s a mess in here!

Vor 2 years
Unapologetically Free
Unapologetically Free

A lot of hoarders are narcissists. You are confusing collectors and bad housekeepers with filthy hoarders

Vor 8 Monate
Vac Aspen
Vac Aspen

It's not organised at all. Itis a mess. They have brain damaging inability to process Spaces create what they can control take responsibility for Is prioritising things for themselves over other superior These things are an extension of them in the later lady not leave any Room for other people and their stuff.

Vor year
Folsom Anna
Folsom Anna

My Father hordes money

Vor 2 years
Kewljean
Kewljean

In the shows I've watched, the Hoarders are living in really, really, really dirty surroundings. Bugs & vermon in the homes. Literal piles of filth. Their homes become dumpsters, no different than a dumpster on a street (rotting food, dead animals, human waste). I fail to see how these people are extra creative. Alcohol is also shown to be connected many times. Its all about control and procrastination, frustration, indecision, depression, and avoidance (alcohol).

Vor 5 years
sweetpeace5
sweetpeace5

Kewljean It’s ANXIETY & OVERWHELM thus PROCRASTINATION & STRESS on repeat

Vor 3 years
Bella V
Bella V

Kewljean i agreed the creative aspects is questionable

Vor 5 years
perfectdiamond32
perfectdiamond32

The thing I hate about people judging hoarders and calling them insane or mentally ill is wrong. Right?

Vor 5 years
Marnee DeRider
Marnee DeRider

Saying it is a mental illness is pretty far in the opposite direction from judging them. It is saying they are suffering (i.e. victims of) an illness. Where is the judgement in that?

Vor 4 years
A F
A F

his voice is unintentional asmr.

Vor year
Dee
Dee

They sound like artists

Vor 2 years
Dale Redpath
Dale Redpath

I think that's fair. There are a whole lot of aesthetic and emotional details to every object that just don't come up if you think of items solely for their utilitarian value. If people think about the attachment they have to significant keepsakes and then apply that feeling to other objects, then they will get an insight into what this hoarding thing is like. And it actually makes a bit of sense because if your life is filled with meaningful things you are attached to then you have quite a rich life. But when it impairs your ability to manage your life, that is a problem

Vor year

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