Confidence isn’t “I know they’ll like me”, it’s “I’m okay if they don’t”.

It's also, "...........There were other people here????"

@Inorite that’s ignorance

I'll move "okay" over to IDGAF

Pingu Nootson@ Thats not good wtf lol, by saying that you can excuse a lot of your own behavior, that is not "good confidence". This is something a spiteful person would say when they sit and dwell on negative experiences. Check yourself.

I think "fake it till you make it" is really important when it comes to confidence. You need to practice it in order for it to start coming naturally. Appearing confident, even when you don't feel confident, I believe, can prevent confrontation or becoming a victim (in some circumstances).

As a performer, I can vouch for this! First you have to learn how to LOOK confident onstage, and then with time and experience, you gradually develop true confidence.

There’s a good book describing this called, “The Confident Gap,” you can’t be confident in something you’re not regularly doing it. Just like you can’t be confident in a certain subject since you don’t regularly practice it. Whereas an expert will be supremely confident since that’s his life.

I'd say yes it's a mix of all of those, meaning it would depends on how well you eventually carry yourself. I can improve, and have confidence in myself in many areas, but I will no doubtly have social anxiety all my life. There are some things that you really can't hide though, that points a giant arrow at others that you are different or not "normal"...so some people will be be more targeted no matter what they do...but I still think it's a good idea to learn these things and one can always improve for sure!

As a member of a minority group, I can confirm this!

He's right. I've always loved studying the gestures and language of appealing characters and I come across as confident most of the times, to the point where people are surprised when I tell them I have anxieties and various inner struggles like we all do. It's not about feeling perfect, it's about knowing you deserve to be where you're at and accepting that you might feel uncomfortable at times.

Can u tell some particular things that u do, please?

@Bhavya Choudhary find a confident person that you admire and practise acting out their body language daily.

It's all meaningless nonsense really, some people Will always be miserable And hate u no matter how positive and confident u Are

@Bhavya Choudhary eat some lovely beefburgers Gandhi, after that have beef curry,then cry

Anyone who has seen an infant stare at someone unselfconsciously, or do almost anything that infants and pre-toddlers do, will understand that we are indeed born confident. I think fear and inhibition are learned, and later have to be un-learned if we are to regain our initial confidence now that we have an intellectual understanding of it.

You are so right!

Trauma 101

Curiosity isnt same as confidence.

@Ava G Right. But infants are confidently curious. They don't shoe-gaze their way through their early lives. While they don't have any understanding of confidence per se, they also don't seem to have a lot of self-doubt. And when you proceed through life without self-doubt, that's confidence. I'm really not sure how self-doubt gets into the mix, but now I wonder if it happens about when we start making permanent memories.

@Ava G It's pretty similar when you think about it actually. Confidence is connected to positive traits, wisdom, intelligence, love, power, charisma, etc etc, not gonna sort through all the positive traits to check lol but i can't think of one that isn't involving confidence.

I was born confident and as a little girl I was constantly scolded for being too bold or outspoken. Now I own it again and found joy in life like when I was true to myself.

🙏🏻🧸

You’re confusing confidence of entitlement.

I was harshly disciplined for being a powerful and confident child. It’s taken me 50 years and the death of my disciplinary mother passing before I felt free to be me again.

@Louise Mullins it's taken me many years to out learn the limits others tried to impose on me, which I finally understood was merely their beliefs, fears and insecurities. It never had anything to do with me but abuse and social conditioning tries to tell you it does. I'm fully there, the pandemic helped me free myself and the free fun inner child that just went silence but was always waiting for me. I'm so pleased others like you are freeing yourselves, we're becoming a wild bunch ❤️. Stay blessed.

1:00 traits of confident people 3:10 modeling confidence 4:48 behaviors 5:39 intonation 7:33 cadence 9:26 nonverbals 11:32 public speaking 13:10 conclusion

Thank you for the timestamp.

@HIMURO GENTOKU ♡

"confidence can be very quiet" - finally someone said it, thank you!

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confidence is quiet, the loudest in the room is the weakest

@Christian Tava Sometimes, not always, not necessarily most of the time either. I'd say Trump is consistently he loudest in the room, and his confidence knows no bounds lol

Yes, it can be quiet. But it really isn't usually. Quiet confidence is infinitely less annoying.

@Christian Tava it can be quiet, it can also be loud.

Thank you for this great video. My key takeaways are: 1. Show that you are in command and in control. For example, make eye contacts with others. Talk to convey your message instead of convincing others by saying the same thing in different ways or over-explaining yourself. Take your time to say it and answer the questions. Do not show any quick motion like you are in a hurry. Sit comfortably and own the space 2. Ask yourself how you want to be perceived and what should you do to make it happen. Imitate someone who you think is confident 2. You can build and nurture your confidence. Practice. Practice. Practice

I like #1. Show that you are in command and in control. Convey don’t convince and over explain. Do not show any quick motion like you are in a hurry. Sit comfortably and own your space.

Everything this guy said is straight facts. I've been working on my body language and confidence for some years now, and this video informed me of some things I didn't know - always room for improvement!

Like what?

May all you wishes come true. God bless 💫🙏🙏

I became more confident when I accepted the idea that I have no control over other peoples thinking and realizing that it is not worth my time and energy to worry about. The things that people say, whether it is about you or anything else, says more about themselves. When someone speaks they showcase and represent themselves for everyone to hear and see. How you respond or choose to say will also say a lot about you, more than the person you are saying it to or about.

Well said.

True. People spend too much time on people convincing someone of something when they don't care about you. Its a waste of energy. You soon realize those type of people and its best to move on.

To me confidence means being happy with who you are. Having that inner peace with the person you are.

I agree. People who are comfortable with themselves make others feel comfortable. I don’t believe in this learned confidence it’s just fake. Saying an actor displays confidence could just mean they are good at acting out confidence.

Confidence is not thinking about yourself too much, other than occasionally considering the person you're becoming. Thinking about how happy you are with yourself is a stunting proposition.

@Swamp Gump Harpy Well now you're just turning happiness into an equation.

May all you wishes come true. God bless 💫🙏🙏

That's self-esteem, much more important and powerful than "looking" and "acting" confident

Thank you for breaking this down. Many other YouTubers explains what to do but so few of them can actually explain and demonstrate what is confidence.

To anybody reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind may clarity replace confusion. And may peace and calmness fill your life. ❤🌟

Amen!!

Public speaking technique: _shrink_ your audience scale. Pick 3 people in different parts of the audience. Talk just towards them. Not necessarily directly at them, but look in their general area, gliding back and forth between them. It's much easier to talk to 3 people than, 10, 100, 1000 or greater. It will bring down your anxiety and raise your confidence.

I get nervous just to talk to three people 😭

@The Unknown Psycho Don't talk directly to the three people you pick. Pick the space _between them_ and the person beside them to "talk to". To the audience, it appears that you're talking to someone, but you're just talking to empty space. That way, you aren't looking directly into anyone's eyes and won't get self-conscious or nervous. Later, as you get more confident in your speaking abilities, you can start looking at people if you feel comfortable.

Well put. Good pointers👍🏼 Thank you for the same

Thank you!!!

Raise your confidence with tricks.. I don't think that's how you develop yourself.

I have ADHD so usually it's hard for me to focus on talks, speeches and so on. But when someone is really good at speaking and confident about what they're saying, I tend to pay more and even full attention. I paid full attention to this video and even remember what I learned after watching only once. This is my 2nd time here! Just to make sure I don't forget :)

Why you ADHD???? 🤣🤣🤣

Sameee

@Jami Ai Naga it's not funny :\

how do you know you have ADHD ?

@Michal Blaško Visit your local psychologist

1:33-Less Confident we are less Eye contact we make and we are reluctant to look around 3:33- 4:18-4:47 4:55- 5:38- 7:33-Cadence 10:56-Smooth Movements convey more confident 11:54- 12:12-

Thx for this

To anybody reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind may clarity replace confusion. And may peace and calmness fill your life. ❤🌟

Convey don't convince is the best advice ever. Truly powerful stuff. I like how you admitted that you still get nervous, it's only human and only when we are scared can we be brave. :D

Confidence and con man "misleader" in Babylon, DC., there must be a connection between these two words. Brandon pretends to be "confident" when any high school student with open eyes can see that Brandon is a seeming "con man" grifter in cheap aviator sunglasses. As Shakespeare said, ".. a man (Brandon???) can smile and smile and still be a villain."

To anybody reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind may clarity replace confusion. And may peace and calmness fill your life. ❤🌟

There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. People are comfortable around confident people but they inwardly despise arrogance. Be confident!

You will heal, recover, and relive life again in a new happy joyful body… every thing you have been through will make sense to you.. it takes back to your soul ❤🌟

I had an epiphany after having to do some presentations and being very nervous about it. When I mentioned it to my supervisor afterwards, she was surprised, she and others told me they couldn't tell that I was nervous. Body language is everything. Learn to move in a confident manner and you will come across as confident. Then others will respond positively to you and it will make you actually more confident. There's a positive feedback loop here.

You will heal, recover, and relive life again in a new happy joyful body… every thing you have been through will make sense to you.. it takes back to your soul ❤🌟

A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.

Keep it up!

"Lmao I don't even get compliments just get looked at because my bro tells me that I look to intimidating and angry but I swear that I'm a kind respectful individual just don't take my kindness as any sort of weakness"

She were being sarcastic

@Ash 1211 yea right !

I tell my kids, you can’t force it. It will come. Confidence comes with experiences and I also believe it is innate. I live by this: if you have it, flaunt it. If you don’t have it, fake it. Either way, OWN IT.

You will heal, recover, and relive life again in a new happy joyful body… every thing you have been through will make sense to you.. it takes back to your soul ❤🌟

I think it starts with .. being comfortable in your own skin with yourself. I try to treat everyone like they are a family member. Being honest to the point first .. eye contact with a smile. Speaking clearly and with the right tone for the right situations. It's so many things it would take all day explaining it. Everyone recognizes who is and who isn't. Try mirror the ones you have came across. Like he has said video yourself and try it in the mirror. He is right..

Really great information. I use these examples to show my elementary students how to become more confident and then how to show it! It is amazing to see how many children are not confident even if they are a top student!

I wish I had had a teacher like you.

Well said indeed. Confidence doesn't have to try once it takes hold and runs deep through and through. For myself it has come after much prayer, knowing my identity in Christ and knowing He is Sovereign over every situation and has my very best interest not only at heart but in His plan and power to bring that prosperity for me to pass in real time. In addition it takes humility, courage, knowledge and an open, relaxed sense of self containment and respect. It's a beautiful thing to possess and it has been well worth the wait while learning, reading, role playing and adapting to society and it's social norms and expectations. You have to know and believe your worth and therefore one can rest as they are not dependent on others evaluation, labels, and estimations of one's values. It's fabulous and glorious to be fifty three and truly coming into my own. Thank you sincerely.

Confidence and con man "misleader" in Babylon, DC., there must be a connection between these two words. Brandon pretends to be "confident" when any high school student with open eyes can see that Brandon is a seeming "con man" grifter in cheap aviator sunglasses. As Shakespeare said, ".. a man (Brandon???) can smile and smile and still be a villain."

I am not here to convince I am here to convey! That line got me and really resonated with me. Thank you this is an excellent video.

Working as a teacher, having good body language and tone to project confidence is super important. It can be the difference between a class that mocks you and one that respects you.

I'm here for that very reason. I'm a young teacher who just got her first real job. I'm going to be teaching at a school of 300 students, starting in February. I'm doing a lot of studying to prepare as I'd never had such a large scale experience with teaching.

bubbles bunny thank you for such a nice message! I'm sure it will 🤞🏼

Begin kinda strict & you can loosen up over time, but if you start too casual it becomes nearly impossible to regain the control of the room... Good luck it is a great thing to teach & shape the next generation & a couple more through the lives of the students you influence!

I will watch this video every morning to put it deeply in my head. This is some life changing information. The statement “People are not born confident…” alone just gave me so much confidence.

Random Hajile Whatever you may think this is a really helpful video for those that need a boost in self confidence. Very encouraging 🎉👍

watching videoagain does not make good. to make something special you have to believe special. confidence mean body language but some people though getting nude is confidence.

Great tips. I speak in church often. I appreciate these tips. I know I should slow my pace. You are so correct about knowing your subject before speaking will give you the confidence you need in front of the audience. Practice, practice, practice will improve any skill. Blessings! 🙏👍

Valuable video for me! As I am struggling to train myself to become more confident within and appearing so, too, I have made the experience that (1) confidence in some people is innate (and I am definitely not one of them) and (2) confidence does not always strengthen with knowledge. I used to think that I am not confident enough and that expanding my knowledge in various areas would help me achieve that. I am currently 31 and still studying (and working); I never left school, however, the more I know the lower my confidence. Worrying a lot about what I don't know and feeling like I don't have enough experience have me grounded, but I believe there are many people who feel this way. Hence, I find this video very helpful and I hope others do too!

You are the only precious person in the world. Without any reason, existence itself is precious. I hope you can tell yourself that you love me and that you worked hard and sleep comfortably.

This was very helpful for me. I am in a public speech organization / club and was very nervous about this upcoming year of competition, but I feel much more ready now after watching this video. Thank you for the effort.

You are the only precious person in the world. Without any reason, existence itself is precious. I hope you can tell yourself that you love me and that you worked hard and sleep comfortably.

I took public speaking in college and the things you mention in the video were the same thing that were stressed in the classes. It was a very interesting class with a talk to do each week.

“a confident person takes their time to leave or enter a room” Me: arrives at school 50 minutes late to show my confidence

😂😂

Lmao 💀

Now you may get kicked out school with confidence.

😂

Ayy possibly true, as you enter, you will get the entire class attention.

What an incredible teacher! I’ve learned more in this video then I’ve learned in all the time I’ve surfed the internet. Amazing!

This is all good stuff, particularly the part about not hurrying. Thank you! That said, I'd love to see examples of relatively lower status people in-grouping with higher status people through these behaviors. With the examples here, it seems to me, that there is a bit of a chicken and egg problem. Politicians and celebrities carry the power of well-known faces and they have actual power over the people around them. People orient towards them for safety. The isolated, exalted setting of a podium or a stage add to that focus.

You will heal, recover, and relive life again in a new happy joyful body… every thing you have been through will make sense to you.. it takes back to your soul ❤🌟

Honestly, I believe that to be confident means that I should be smart mentally, emotionally, and also academically. I mean when a confident person speaks, the first thing that pops up in my mind is "wow, this person is definitely clever". Basically, what l'm saying is that confidence is accompanied by many other things so one has to have certain behavior to show for it.

Interesting topic! As much as this research tells us I’d love to see us embracing more expansive ways of communicating. So many folks are neurodiverse and/or have other limitations to how they can communicate. Do love that you had Jane Goodall as an example. Her quiet confidence is really inspiring!

I’m so grateful for the comments you have made. I have a nine year old grandson who is trying to deal with adhd ( without realising) Your words have given a different perspective on this subject for my wife and I. Thank you so much ❤

Not being intimidated by others can make you confident. No matter what your status in life is, we're all just humans.

Also knowing that other people's judgement and harsh comments are a result of their own fear (for survival on the most general sense) and not an objective reflection of you

@Mtra.der Word

precisely! I couldn't agree more!!

Truth. Martial arts and boxing can help with this. If you can square off to someone and hold your own, the average person out there doesn't seem very scary.

@yummypasta92 spot on .

When I started acting confident in class, changing my posture, tone, and look, my classrooms became disciplined. My students literally started respecting me more and respecting the rules. My supervisor told me that your problem with classroom management was because of how low self-confident you would be in class.

my mother thought me a lot about body language, she just figured it out being a Volleyball Trainer. about public speaking, she said: stand there a sec, then start with a quiet tone, people instinctively try to hear and will pay more attention, then a joke. i used to be confident, then had panic attacks and anxiety attacks.. while my job was to meet new people and be confident, funny and all. i would go to the toilet before, and stand in a cubicle with legs apart, hands of hips, chest up, slow stomach breathing. so confident body language practice to get your body to feel powerful. it helped soooo much!

That reminds of grey's anatomy, that's what Amelia Shepard would do before a surgery

Thought or taught?

To anybody reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind may clarity replace confusion. And may peace and calmness fill your life. ❤🌟

I always look into the eyes of the person I’m talking to and smile. It’s so interesting to see how people react. Alternatively, when people do the same thing to me it’s a little uncomfortable. We’re all susceptible to manipulation whichever form it takes.

I think to have confidence, you need something to back that confidence up. If you are very skillful/talented with something, you will naturally be more confident plus you would probably get some sort of external validation be it, being paid for it, winning awards, being praised by other for that subject, all these would make you more confident as you know you have something to bring to the world. The hard part is getting very skilled in something.

0:58 One: Traits of confident people - Posture, the way we present, how we look, where our chin is, where the eyes are looking and gazing - Our gestures are loose but smoother 3:12 Two: Modeling confidence People that look around are more confident. More experienced, knowledgeable Have command of themselves If you're in charge, you're in charge of time

Finally a video that does not just focus on posture, intonation, gestures, etc but emphasises the importance of KNOWING the subject you're talking about.

Arguably the most important factor in attaining self confidence

Being rich, tall and good looking helps too

@Roma Sky no, more like 50-50, True self confidence comes your perception of yourself. If you base it on something that is not eternal and innate, or something temporary like money, looks, aesthetics. People who know their abilities generate wealth are confident not those who somehow got rich, it's a delusion or cockiness not self confidence, you really need to have ablities and skills to back your self confidence not looks.

A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.

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Calls for self-awareness. Great piece here. Thank you for putting this together.

I've watched a lot of videos on confidence and i can confidently say, this is one of the masterpieces.

Facts. It’s also a mindset thing. If u respect yourself to the fullest that energy shines outward on other people, u get a different hand dealt with in life👊🏻

I really really enjoyed this video! Thank you so much for this content 😄 It made me feel I learnt so much in a couple of minutes.

I feel we are all born confident, but we tend to lose it a bit due to different circumstances. When I do what I love, I become naturally more comfortable and confident in other fields of life; if I have to do something dreadful, I feel very anxious regardless of my experience and knowledge.

Confidence comes when you have a deep knowing that you are of value and worthy to be on this earth and worthy of respect and being listened to.

💯 bro

or when you see you are nothing like everyone other

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how should you respond if someone doesnt treat you with the value and respect you think you deserve? Genuine question

@lamelo you gotta be distance and make less eye contact to make the person feel that he's not interested in me,period

Confidence should not be equated to arrogance. Shyness should not be equated to humility. 🙂

Over the years i have learned, that confidence is not a facade that people show its your energy of authority that people feels. And Being confident is not just having your shoulders back stand straight. Its far more than that.

Confidence and con man "misleader" in Babylon, DC., there must be a connection between these two words. Brandon pretends to be "confident" when any high school student with open eyes can see that Brandon is a seeming "con man" grifter in cheap aviator sunglasses. As Shakespeare said, ".. a man (Brandon???) can smile and smile and still be a villain."

More than fifty years ago an acquaintance asked me to make a speech in support of him in a nominating convention. The difficulty that arises is that I had never before addressed an audience. On the afternoon of the day of the nomination he phoned me and said that he got permission to use the auditorium and we went down and practiced delivering our speeches to an _empty_ auditorium. That included walking up to the podium, pausing and looking out over the audience before commencing delivery. That evening during the convention when I was called up the moment that I took the first step any apprehension vanished, I immediately relaxed and delivering my speech was easy and enjoyable. Upon the first step I knew that I had been that way before.

This was amazing! More of Joe Navarro please

Great video! Very informative! Thank you very much for sharing it with us!

my notes: 1. use cadence 2. confidence is about being comfortable but controlled 3. broad graceful smooth movements (less abrupt reactive movements) 4. convey NOT convince (say it once) 5. spaces force people to anticipate what you’re saying next 6. typical “soldier posture” doesn’t equal confidence (comfort) 7. decisiveness is imperative 8. “the person in charge controls time” no need to speed up for anyone or anything 9. self grooming (self soothing) behaviors look less confident (bc why are you soothing urself rn if you’re confident) 10. if you’re scared, own it (say it) instead of trying to not be “found out” (literally worsens social anxiety) 11. rehearse performance so it’s not sudden/new/scary when you first do it (more control) 12. gain full confidence (breathe, etc) before facing the crowd 13. PEOPLE ARENT BORN CONFIDENT 14. KNOW your info/skills have something to be proud of and have the info to anchor and ground yourself in (so you won’t be unsure or face imposter syndrome) 15. look around and make eye contact (keep eyes at about eye level)

Ty ❤️

I have to use myself 😍

Hey! I didnt understand the 9 note, he says about it in the video? (I finished rn the video, but maybe I didn't saw it)

Many thanks for the numbered list! I love when others do this and try to do so myself if someone else hasn't already. A true hero.

I definitely have #8 down 😂

Confidence is projected when you have genuine self-esteem.

Combination of "knowledge, class, humbleness, respect and success" is the real confidence of gentle people - which is automatically saved in their body language without trying 😀

I totally agree it is also important to know who you are and why you are here speaking in public or making a presentation or video, or whatever. Thanks for sharing information 👏💚

Confidence isn't about walking in a place thinking everyone is obsessed with you it's about walking without comparing yourself to others

Reading his book has changed me to understand more about non-verbal language. Salute Joe!

Teacher: You should be confident Student: *Confidently answers the wrong answer* Teacher: **Humiliates the student** Student: - 9000Confidence

"There are no dumb questions" The next kid immediately asks dumb question n gets unnecessary feedback

Then you weren't confident enough (or at least more than the teacher). I've answered questions so confidently before that I made them doubt their actual correct answer. Being right is half the battle. Convincing others is the other.

“Confidentially” or “confidently?”

Confidently answer back "Thank you professor, you just taught me a lot about the kind of teacher you are: the one who kicks down those students who need your help the most."

As a body language expert myself, I say categorically, This is the GRAND MASTER!

As a pizza maker, I agree.

As a pizza eater, I agree.

As a pizza digester, I agree.

As pizza, SOMEBODY HELP ME!

As a pizza topping, I fear for my life.

I don't think it's necessary to learn the gesture to be confident, it's only for you to show confidence. To me, knowing exactly what I'm talking about with supporting, knowledge, understanding the situation, the audience, what feedback I might get etc. Makes me confident without the need doing anything physically, I've never cared for those.

Confidence is being beautiful on the inside and being a truly kind person. Your body language and waving to the people is just a Display!! Boom 💥

When I worked as an insurance agent years ago, I had a great general manager who would give us pep talks in our meetings. He would always end the meeting by saying (and have all of us say) "When you know, and you know that you know, then confidence replaces fear!" And he was exactly right! David Schwartz, in his classic motivational book "The Magic of Thinking Big" said, "Action Cures Fear." He was right too! Just take that first step, know your subject or skill inside-out, act as if your on a mission, and you will go a long way! Napoleon Hill, in "Think and Grow Rich," said, "Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve."

Perfect. Very helpful.👍 Body language actually determines how we're percieved by others.

Confidence in the way one walks is actually very admirable and attractive. One of my classmates always carries herself with certainty and elegance, so natural and smooth, no awkwardness or hesitation in her gestures. It speaks a lot about her well balanced personality and ability to socialise in different environments. Quite impressive in my opinion:)

It's so beautiful how you described her. Your observational skills are astute and keen. It was so vivid in my mind what you described. You're a great story teller :)

I agree ^

How nice of you to put it this way. Some might take that confidence repulsive and others would desire that caliber ruined. Impressed by the way you see the world around you.

So eloquently outlined.

You should tell her that, she'd probably love it

I remember the day when I was the quiet guy at the back of the class, when I was 14, a teacher approached me and asked me to get involved in public speaking, he promised to teach me, his method is to let everyone in class hear everything I said, I'm definitely shaking as I go to the front of the class thinking that this is impossible. Time goes by I went the competition and lose obviously, but there's this feeling inside me that it is not over, the barrier that concealed me had faded away and as I join many speaking event the barrier get smaller and here I am in my college day presenting my case with confidence even sometimes it's not perfect but I believe mistakes happen and dont back down, I wasn't born with confidence, I came a long way to become what I am now, I believe we all had some sort of barrier and it needs to be bring down, chisel it bit by bit if you have too, as time goes by, you'll make it, and you're not the shy person you're once before.

There are 2 things , one being genuinely confident inside , and second how one shows to outside world their confidence thru body language . Personal opinion fake confidence or presenting to show something you are not will eventually reveal itself . Try first be confident on the inside then show it off . TIP - improve your knowledge or skill needed to show the confidence .

loved the delivery of this topic. Wired, you nailed it; thank you for sharing.

Make eye contact Be decisive in whatever you do/know what you're doing Take your own time Loose, controlled gestures Study those who are confident "How do I want to be perceived, and how do I achieve that?" Don't point; display instead Saying no: slow, deep, low Your voice should travel lower, not higher, at the end of your sentences Speak empathetically, with appropriate pauses/in cadence Confidence can be quiet and comfortable (doesn't have to be loud and rigid) Convey, don't convince Don't fidget and preen; don't be jittery Rehearse and release muscular tension beforehand

Superb! Wish 🙏 I could have watched your presentation and advice years ago! Never too old to learn?!

Timeline📝 0:58 Traits of Confidence 3:11 Model 4:48 Behaviors 5:38 Intonation 7:34 Cadence 9:27 Nonverbals 11:34 Public Speaking 13:11 Conclusion

Thanks!!

Thank u 😊

Thank you!

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thank you

confidence is all about not caring others judgment. the most important achievement in the area of confidence is being able to leave your own life, do wht you really believe etc. if it happens, then you can speak in public, control your surroundings, and in one word you can be a leader or commander

Wow, this video is so good, useful tips.. I found out there is a thin line between confidence and arrogance, and sometime we are being perceived the latter.. Personally, fitting clothes always bring me a boost of confidence

I used to be confidence until highschool but then people started judging me about my looks and everything I do then I slowly starting feeling underconfident in almost every situations but I i'm again building my confidence hope I will make it 🎉

you will

Confidence for me is about feeling that I am okay, no matter what situation I am in or task I am doing.

Cate Blanchett is indeed a very good example. She has this quiet confidence, she's articulated but not loud, so when she speaks everyone listens.

She's the queen

And being gorgeous helps her a lot too

And yet she’s Australian, the most avid users of uptalk 😂

NO,NO,NO, END NO!

The king is gone, but he’s not forgotten. This is the story of Johnny Rotten.

A helpful video thank you. Confident shown through how we contact with things. How slowly we act. How comfortable we feel. How we hold our speech to get people attention. How we lead our body ( if i have any mistake please help i am a learner )

Someone once told me I walk into a room as if I own the place. So often when I was younger I would go someplace alone with the normal discomfort one has upon entering a venue by yourself yet I had no outward sign of this. I walked with confidence, my head held high. I remember frequenting a nightclub as a young woman with a friend of mine and one day the bouncer said, "here comes the class of the club".

The utmost confidence for me is illustrated in a story about a Russian tsar (I think it was Alexander III). As he was fishing, one of his counselors urged him to hurry back to the city because several european headstates were waiting for him to discuss important matters. His answer was "The Tsar is fishing. Europe can wait." Imagine having 20% of that confidence.

Wasting other people's time just because you are in a position of power doesn't make you confident, but rather arrogant. There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance, and is very easy to cross the line without knowing it.

Feeling comfortable in your own body is so important. When you workout, eat healthy, get good sleep and take care of yourself helps nurture your confidence. You feel good and project it, inwardly and outwardly.

Being humble but with confidence is what we should have. Not being narcissistic like the society nowadays.

👍👍👍👍👍👍. So true

Absolutely

Can you elaborate? What do you mean by being narcissistic like in society nowadays?

@Jasmine What is to be elaborated here? We live in a society in which we love ourselves too much and do not think of others.

@Jasmine kanye west

Thank you for sharing! Very practical and applicable.

A technique I use for public speaking involves a mental exercise. I glance at the audience and calculate how many people I could physically overcome if I chose to. It's a realization of my inner strength, and that I am really Superman playing Clark Kent, with control over this power within me. This helps calm my nerves, allowing me to speak with confidence.

Sound Intonation - the most most crucial part of it all if you're someone who's into anything related to direct human interaction ❤

you can't control being comfortable and being confident, you can't just make it happen by deciding it, it needs to happen naturally, it's like the weather

This was really helpful, thank you! As a Yoga & Pilates Teacher, I appreciate the tools :)

Knowing that 2.7 million people just learned how to say “no” correctly is amazing

👀

That works only for police officers though

I have just realized that the only reason I know how to say “no” properly is because I have a dog 🤭

No🖖

3.2 million now

Body language depends upon culture to culture. Same posture can be a sign of confidence in one place while in other place a sign of attitude.

I disagree with his last part...I've never seen an unconfident baby or toddler. I think we are born confident and are beaten down until we start to question ourselves.

I agree

shy toddlers exist?

@internet user shy is not the same as someone who lacks confidence.

Very important video. Step by step I’m trying to act and feel more confident. My strategy is to fake until you make it plus trying to be out of my confort zone little by little everyday.

Here to convey, not to convince. Beautifully said!

i’m gonna be honest i don’t have a lick of confidence and i’m learning but when he said “say no” i literally said it the same way he did the first time 😭 i think confidence is about presence. it’s a behavior that u can easily fake you just have to know how to do it right

As a woman, choosing makeup, hair and outfits appropriately hugely impacts my confidence. When I’m at my lowest, I can’t even make an eye contact, but at my best, my spine straightens up itself.

well I can relate.

True

too bad it's a facade we can see through ^_^

Do you want a medal?

I think that's superficial confident

Thanks for your points of view but I believe that we should allow ourselves to show our uncertainty in our gesture if we feel like that otherwise we are faking confidence, after sometimes we might end up losing our credibility in front other people who believed in us. However, I certainly value putting effort on expressing ourselves in confidence in general.

You lose credibility by not being confident anyway

@Ariel Danielle as I said I encourage building confidence but faking it without building deep confidence and solving the root causes can be detected.

Confidence came to me with learning more and working on my body. Come to think of it, actually I don’t know what I feel about being confident. Comment above said it really good its not about “they will like me” rather it’s about “its okay if they dont”. Most of the times to me it feels like I am dominating and taking control over the person I am talking to. Naturally, there are ways of communicating that I have developed that makes people feel close and comfortable with me that they believe me and start opening up about themselves really fast. At some point I become worried am I not getting arrogant cause it is important to be confident but not arrogant cause people like confident people they look for solution to their problems in then but arrogant people are not pleasing to talk

Confidence is: " I'm utterly comfortable in my skin.." "I don't have to impress anyone to be happy...." " I don't have to seek anyone's validation to be happy...! "I'm here to convey; and not to convince..!"

My family and friends say that I have a Regal confidence way of speaking and walking. I was shocked that I had these traits that was so amazing 💛

I actually believe that we are born with confidence and that our experiences determines whether we lose or grow it. After all, babies are born thinking that the world revolves around them, since all they know is their own thoughts and minuscule experiences.