10 ways to have a better conversation | Celeste Headlee

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    When your job hinges on how well you talk to people, you learn a lot about how to have conversations - and that most of us don't converse very well. Celeste Headlee has worked as a radio host for decades, and she knows the ingredients of a great conversation: Honesty, brevity, clarity and a healthy amount of listening. In this insightful talk, she shares 10 useful rules for having better conversations. "Go out, talk to people, listen to people," she says. "And, most importantly, be prepared to be amazed."
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Lalla Mariam Habibi
Lalla Mariam Habibi

FANTASTIC talk

Vor 6 Stunden
Dammy Cox
Dammy Cox

I see we all got the 10/10 points but let me add these: - Enter every conversation assuming you have something to learn - True listening requires setting aside of oneself - Everyone you’ll ever meet knows something that you don’t - Everyone is an expert in something - If your mouth is opened, you’re not learning - Be interested in other people - A good conversation is like a miniskirt; short enough to retain interest, but long enough to cover the subject - The ingredients of a great conversation: Honesty, brevity, clarity, and a healthy amount of listening

Vor 16 Stunden
Dammy Cox
Dammy Cox

I see we all got the 10/10 points but let me add these: - Enter every conversation assuming you have something to learn - True listening requires setting aside of oneself - Everyone you’ll ever meet knows something that you don’t - Everyone is an expert in something - If your mouth is opened, you’re not learning - Be interested in other people - A good conversation is like a miniskirt; short enough to retain interest, but long enough to cover the subject - The ingredients of a great conversation: Honesty, brevity, clarity, and a healthy amount of listening

Vor 16 Stunden
Nursulu Nurgali
Nursulu Nurgali

The best lesson I have learned today.

Vor 17 Stunden
Mr. ZAPSTEE's YT
Mr. ZAPSTEE's YT

Don't take BT, Watch the BT (Bright Thoughts) https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCf7ulBnxmRsoUoJY4Yt977A/featured

Vor Tag
Godfather
Godfather

Most people don't really listen, they are waiting for the others to stop speaking so they can take over.

Vor Tag
J.PRASHANTH
J.PRASHANTH

iam a very good listener .....but in that process i think i lost my own voice.

Vor 2 Tage
Ben Harnden
Ben Harnden

Half way through this it ironically dawned on me that I was only half paying attention and doing other things

Vor 2 Tage
Yan Chuangcai
Yan Chuangcai

here it's a problem, the conversation it's about the dynamic interaction between 2 people, so even one of them have a super high-level communication skill, like humor, combat argument or even hypnosis techniques, if the other person is 'randomly' or 'occasionally' on the state that doesn't want hear anything or just don't know how to express their feelings, the conversation at the end with a bad close.

Vor 2 Tage
Julia C
Julia C

I guess you are talking here about a wife and her "hubby"

Vor 14 Stunden
Mel Mel
Mel Mel

I am amazed

Vor 2 Tage
Mel Mel
Mel Mel

She is smart and beautiful, great talk!

Vor 2 Tage
Derek Diao
Derek Diao

how true the dilemmas after fours years of Trump's administration... can't we just get along although i'm not a non Trump-supporter

Vor 3 Tage
Eren Fırat
Eren Fırat

I couldnt watch it anymore every 10 seconds people are laughing loudly even if it is not funny thats annoying bruh

Vor 3 Tage
Judith
Judith

I would have liked to hear what I should be telling as well

Vor 3 Tage
EVANCE USHAKI
EVANCE USHAKI

Waoh from 🇹🇿...! I loved this presentation and I keep repeating it often.. It's really nice.

Vor 4 Tage
Miss Sterling
Miss Sterling

I do these things but I made these rules up in my own head. Really helped me smash my social anxiety years ago! :)

Vor 4 Tage
SlavicGirl Agency
SlavicGirl Agency

It's a shame that a lot of people don't have their own opinion, because they don't think. They have someones - media, politics etc

Vor 4 Tage
john smith
john smith

Boobiiiiiiiiiiesssss

Vor 4 Tage
HOME SWEET
HOME SWEET

oh my god is tired

Vor 4 Tage
Roy Herold
Roy Herold

I no longer need my job with the help of, *e z g o o d p a y .c o m*

Vor 5 Tage
Phenomenal love
Phenomenal love

Wow,she nailed it.The quote from the sister is quite amazing though.

Vor 5 Tage
AlednA
AlednA

her: *talks basically about talking less and listening more * me: *me, having trouble socializing bc i dont say barely anything but listen to anything others have to say * i think im already doing this...

Vor 5 Tage
Nursulu Nurgali
Nursulu Nurgali

I am so related😂😂😂

Vor 17 Stunden
Judith
Judith

Yes, indeed. I would have liked to hear what I should be telling as well

Vor 3 Tage
Sara A
Sara A

Im a good listener but also a horrible horrible chatter. Once i open my mouth, cant shut it 😂 so i keep quiet most of the time and try to listen.

Vor 5 Tage
Curleen Trotter
Curleen Trotter

Wow! Wonderfully spoken . This was great

Vor 5 Tage
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Vor 6 Tage
Lightsoutlightson1
Lightsoutlightson1

This is good & I will likely watch this & other videos like it more to improve my conversation skills. I am writing a story called "The Conversation" about a conversation to prevent doomsday so I should try to know something about how to do it the right way. Sadly, it is difficult to have meaningful conversations on line as social media seems to aid "one way" expression of opinion without a back and forth exchange of ideas. I like the speaker's point that everyone is an expert in something and has something important to say. That is an good perspective. It is also interesting that people who are different from myself can be the most interesting people as they have different skill sets and perspectives. The "conversation" I am interested in having is just how to solve problems since so many problems are not getting solved. I am interested in all options for problem solving including combining different disciplines / skill sets toward that goal. Unfortunately, I have not figured out how to engage in a meaningful exchange of ideas on or off social media as most people have an opinion but few want to combine opinions even in a brief, no obligation, format like social media.

Vor 6 Tage
Dummerbrella987
Dummerbrella987

lol can you imagine if two awkward people studied this video as a guide to have a conversation and then tried to use the techniques on each other at the same time? It just wouldn't work. Two people barely talking because they want the other person to talk, and being as brief as possible with their answers while attempting to be open ended.

Vor 6 Tage
Fire eater 9107
Fire eater 9107

Of course, the best way to have the best conversation is to talk to yourself.

Vor 6 Tage
1 Sub?
1 Sub?

*YouTube just recommended me this, I feel attacked.*

Vor 6 Tage
Sojourner Sunrise
Sojourner Sunrise

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Vor 6 Tage
Sojourner Sunrise
Sojourner Sunrise

5:56 a murder knows what its like to take someone's life.....i dont need that knowledge. Thank you.

Vor 6 Tage
Burner Account
Burner Account

@Sojourner Sunrise well, if you watch his tv show he proves his beliefs through experimentation ;)

Vor 5 Tage
Sojourner Sunrise
Sojourner Sunrise

Bill 'Lie' Nye, the .. just dont question answers guy. Don't question facts. Don't have your own belief in the unknown

Vor 6 Tage
Haya syrian
Haya syrian

If you're a person who listens very well, but find it difficult to talk and that's why you clicked on that video don't press any button 😂😂😂

Vor 6 Tage
03 erika saskia
03 erika saskia

I am an introvert person, actually i got a little bit of scared to building a conversation to other people. But, i start developing my self with writing blog and tell much in there. But from this video, i realize if u want they know about you, you have to listen and talks with others. So you can beyond your limit

Vor 6 Tage
Marsco
Marsco

Do the 100 strangers challenge find an excuse to approach 100 people in a month and you lose the fear very quickly!

Vor 6 Tage
BonappetitXCP
BonappetitXCP

Seriously? You're not going to tell us who your Grandfather was? That was just wrong.

Vor 6 Tage
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Vor 7 Tage
anthonymagician
anthonymagician

https://youtu.be/BWoMGirRAyg

Vor 7 Tage
Twixi Films Ltd.
Twixi Films Ltd.

Thank you so much! Now I realize I've been doing many things wrong and this helps so much!

Vor 7 Tage
Petr Pinkas
Petr Pinkas

This is gold, please teach this at schools.

Vor 8 Tage
Basil
Basil

I like her she’s real, we need teachers like her - real people , not phonies

Vor 8 Tage
íLen Køu
íLen Køu

Bruh, even youtube algorithm is attacking me...

Vor 8 Tage
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Emmanuel Ohanon

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Vor 8 Tage
Mendy Josh
Mendy Josh

Oh I'm so 🥰 happy I just got into boyfriend's account just now with the help of *piton_cracks* #via IG his perfect and reliable ❤️❤️😍😍....

Vor 8 Tage
firefly33
firefly33

This lady needs to work on her presentation. She looks like a mess

Vor 8 Tage
Samarpita Sengupta
Samarpita Sengupta

And what do you look like? Like the royalty? Why are you even judging ppl on their looks?

Vor 8 Tage
MA NA
MA NA

Wooa! It's amaaaazing!

Vor 8 Tage
Ultra Light Cam
Ultra Light Cam

Oh mann this so good ima watch it AGAIN

Vor 8 Tage
Tomáš Hluska
Tomáš Hluska

Re everybody's expert - yeah, unfortunately everybody's expert in one field but often feels entitled to speak about unrelated things as expert.

Vor 8 Tage
Bob and Barb Pavlik
Bob and Barb Pavlik

Great stuff, Celeste. I have some work to do.

Vor 8 Tage
Juicy Jam
Juicy Jam

*I was lucky to get steady_cracks on Instagram who got me access to my girlfriend chart* 💯

Vor 9 Tage
Juicy Jam
Juicy Jam

*I was lucky to get steady_cracks on Instagram who got me access to my girlfriend chart* 💯

Vor 9 Tage
Ritik Prajapat
Ritik Prajapat

👍👍👍👍👍 I like to improve myself in conversation

Vor 9 Tage
emiero
emiero

It’s wrong to make decisions about where to live, who to marry, based on what we already believe?

Vor 9 Tage
Victoria O'Shea
Victoria O'Shea

I don't believe in Vaccines or changes in the weather being an excuse for a communist world

Vor 9 Tage
Niamh Lord
Niamh Lord

https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/questions/what-gods-kingdom-will-do/.

Vor 9 Tage
Kane O'Connor
Kane O'Connor

Still relevant today

Vor 9 Tage
Khushi Master
Khushi Master

Great points but my biggest problem in making a good conversation is 'how to start it?'😬😤

Vor 9 Tage
Boris Oostr
Boris Oostr

You never knew this in a *1 M* years: https://youtu.be/xnxqzaqWP1M

Vor 9 Tage
Azaliyasan
Azaliyasan

Be prepared to be amazed ❤🔥

Vor 10 Tage
Jacob Pagliaro Golf
Jacob Pagliaro Golf

*me casually having a conversation with Celeste* Her: “NO NO NO NO NO STOP STOP STOP HOLD UP, YOU’RE DOING IT WRONG”

Vor 10 Tage
Slow Neutron
Slow Neutron

Here's a few rules I follow in my daily discourse with the denizens of my city : 1. Always talk down to the person. 2. Use racial epithets whenever possible. 3. Never be receptive to ideas that are different than yours. 4. Always insist you are correct, even when you're not. 5. Invoke Jesus's name at least 30 times in a 3 minute conversation. 5. Deride those who acknowledge climate change as well as those who get vaccinations. 6. Toss red herrings out in arguments whenever possible. 7. Use circular reasoning, straw-man arguments, and other logical blunders ad nauseum. 8. Always make sure to interrupt. 9. Be as mean as possible. 10. Lie. . . . Hey, I'm just getting adjusted to Trump's America. Does that make me a bad person?

Vor 10 Tage
Julia C
Julia C

Wow !....I am speechless !...all 10 rules are awesome ! ..Impressive !

Vor 14 Stunden
SquatsnDeads812
SquatsnDeads812

Depends who the conversation is with

Vor 10 Tage
Luciano Galvão Filho
Luciano Galvão Filho

Being present is the key to have a better conversation (and also staying healthy and happy)

Vor 10 Tage
Simply Helen
Simply Helen

Ha! This was filmed in 2016! Could you ever have imagined it all would have gotten so much worse??

Vor 10 Tage
Jessalyn Wakefield
Jessalyn Wakefield

Grace and peace to you from our Lord Jesus Christ! I am an attempted murder victim and I need YOUR prayers and support today! Please read, share, and support! gf.me/u/y4anir Thank you Holy Spirit!! Luke 10: 25-37 Thank you Jesus!! #metoo

Vor 10 Tage
iron sword
iron sword

Listen!

Vor 10 Tage
sUcC VEVO
sUcC VEVO

Mr fenstermacher really be showing us the weirdest stuff

Vor 10 Tage
ibrahim Ali
ibrahim Ali

Last time TED teaches me to Talk. Today I had learned to Listen...

Vor 11 Tage
Am Wili
Am Wili

10 ways to have a better conversation"

Vor 11 Tage
ĐᄐጨσИأᄋ ᄂסᄃ0 әpᴉsuᴉ
ĐᄐጨσИأᄋ ᄂסᄃ0 әpᴉsuᴉ

Easy to say all that crap when you don't work, besides, when you are a man, you never be listened.

Vor 11 Tage
Berigó
Berigó

Uau!! One of the most interesting speach ever! What a memory and fluence this woman has! Amazing! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻😱🥰🥰

Vor 11 Tage
I am you, but you are not me
I am you, but you are not me

Handy skills for me! Listening requires energy, something I listen or pretend to be listening just waiting for the moment the opponent stops so I can ask a question which has been lingering in my mind for like hours. In that instance, we are not having an effective conversation, instead, an "extensive exchange" of ideas?

Vor 11 Tage
Che dilusione,vuoi che moro? 02
Che dilusione,vuoi che moro? 02

My problem is that I never know what to talk about.

Vor 11 Tage
Sujata Acharya
Sujata Acharya

All are simple rules we are ignoring everyday.

Vor 12 Tage
Diago Dsouza
Diago Dsouza

Wonderful. I'm impressed by her mastery on the subject. Very practical and easy to remember.

Vor 12 Tage
baljeet sohi
baljeet sohi

I didn't listen, cause of 10. Why not 9 or 13 ?

Vor 12 Tage
Sergio Mcfly
Sergio Mcfly

( . )( . ) Shes amazing

Vor 12 Tage
Ekansh Maithil
Ekansh Maithil

Oh, How Amazing! Thank you :)

Vor 12 Tage
007nadineL
007nadineL

What a fat blow hard Uggggh

Vor 12 Tage
007nadineL
007nadineL

Tdzxt7tcy8v

Vor 12 Tage
Paris R
Paris R

I played the video at 1.5 speed so I wouldn’t get bored or distracted 👌

Vor 12 Tage
Walter VT
Walter VT

Her first point is so wrong. There are people who do need to learn the communications that show their paying attention. Without having consciously learn those people thought I wasn’t paying attention. I was happy attention to everything all the time. But I had to learn how to communicate that I was paying attention. My mother who is a doctor specifically taught me those skills as a child. The speaker in this talk perhaps learn those skills easily he doesn’t even remember it.

Vor 12 Tage
Hamza Neri
Hamza Neri

This thought me a lot.

Vor 12 Tage
Roger Williams
Roger Williams

As a person who gives advice for a living, I appreciated this.

Vor 12 Tage
Yeremia Womsiwor
Yeremia Womsiwor

Thank you for this.

Vor 12 Tage
Learn German with Marzipanfrau
Learn German with Marzipanfrau

Listen.

Vor 12 Tage
Gary Williamson
Gary Williamson

Thank you, will give it a go 👍

Vor 13 Tage
Sunil Sharma
Sunil Sharma

Amazed... Not to say an extra word

Vor 13 Tage
Sarah Thomas
Sarah Thomas

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Vor 13 Tage
John White
John White

I always give the police a damn good listening to but listened my way out of many relationships...

Vor 13 Tage
LamixFace
LamixFace

Very practical advice. Loved it :)

Vor 13 Tage
BM
BM

At minute 7:00 that reminds me of Ellen. I watched her show so often without realizing that she does not listen and just asks questions she prepared, often disconnected to the answer. Was a real disappointment when I figured that out.

Vor 13 Tage
River Reeves
River Reeves

That is genuinely the best ted talk out there

Vor 13 Tage
Truth Bombs
Truth Bombs

She is excellent.

Vor 13 Tage
J.A.V
J.A.V

0:22 my love video :X.

Vor 13 Tage
D.M. CHRISTINA
D.M. CHRISTINA

Hello, this is great but I think only for people well in their skin, feeling ok with themselves, they are able to apply or to practice this. But what if one is so lonely with such a need to talk and to be listened to and need to be understood? It is impossible to listen to someone if oneself has such a need as a result of lonelyness. Another thing is that I can easily (well I think so) listen when the subject interests me. A third thing is that indeed while the other person is speaking, questions or comments will come in my head while listening, but to follow your advice and not interrupt the person, it happens that I forget my comments/questions and in the meantime the subject went in another direction while listening. I always go home frustrated because nobody listenend to ME :/ ?

Vor 13 Tage
Joe Duke
Joe Duke

Don't talk with women. Some men can handle an actual conversation, no woman can.

Vor 13 Tage
Trainwithgaby
Trainwithgaby

Awareness of your own feelings when you communicate is one tool you really learn well with a good counselor. Doing soul hygiene and commit so self growth are key. Talk to a professional and grow. Then you are a blessing for yourself and others around you.

Vor 13 Tage
Mariska D
Mariska D

Thank you ❤

Vor 13 Tage
be the genius
be the genius

🔥

Vor 13 Tage
CA Magnuson
CA Magnuson

Full of the latest social-babble... be present... in the moment... and her superiority complex is on full display.

Vor 14 Tage

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